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last year i witnessed my husband cheating on me. i forgave him and took him back. since then i have been still angry with him causing fights and a couple of times telling him to leave because it was obvious he did not want to be in this marriage and i was still so very angry. then last week he told me he wasn't sure he wanted to be married anymore. i knew deep down that he wasn't trying to help us get through the affair but i never thought he wanted to be single.
i am at a loss. i gave him what he wanted and he moved out of our home completely. all i want is to be with my husband again, the man i married, the one who acted like he loved me and i don't think he wants that at all.
i guess what i need is some guidance on how to handle this all without completely breaking down ever day. i miss him terribl as i lost not only my husband but my best friend.
anyone else have this happen and did their spouse come back and make things work????
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Is he involved in an affair currently? I'd think so.
JinGA
F/40, DD15 DS13
M 1989
DDay his EA May 1998.
S Aug 2004.
D Dec 05. I filed.
4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R.
6/23/07 XH said no to R.
8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B".
1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day.
Ask me about Geocaching!
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he says there is no one else but he could be ling i don't know.
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I'd do some snooping/checking.
Stuff like that isn't said just out of the blue - there is usually an 'influence' someplace.
JinGA
F/40, DD15 DS13
M 1989
DDay his EA May 1998.
S Aug 2004.
D Dec 05. I filed.
4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R.
6/23/07 XH said no to R.
8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B".
1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day.
Ask me about Geocaching!
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Joined: May 2007
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Sad,
Get a copy of Surviving An Affair and read immediately. It will tell you about Plan A (being the best spouse that you can be) so that he doesn't want to move out.
I did Plan A instinctively, before I even knew about this site. It is hard though because my WH acts the same way - like he doesn't want to be there, but occassionally I see little glimmers of hope.
Anyway, Plan A will be harder for you since he has moved out but perhaps you can start by asking him on a date or something - then Plan A your butt off.
Knitgirl
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