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My heart is breaking for the little boy.
Yes she was the OW, but that is not a crime punishable by death in this country, fortunately. (This country = U.S., where the incident is happening.) Nor should it be. I've got a sick feeling over this.
I read somewhere that the time when women are most likely to be killed is when they are pregnant. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />
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So, Now the law enforcement officer has not only betrayed his vows, his marriage and children, Exposed his wife to unknown diseases, expected her to put up with him after the first OC and now into the second. He has now made her the prime suspect in what may very well be a hideous, violent crime. Thank you WS for making the BS life ******.
This is horrid and yes crimes of passion do occur. But if the BS has made it this far without killing either one of them, it's unlikely she would do this now. There are multiple victims here. The ow/oc, the BS, and her children (as they now watch both mom and dad be under suspicion.
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Me BS D Day 4-2-2005 OC born 12-2004 DS 21, DS 12 Married 1993
May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.
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I hate to tell you but there has been quite a few cops who have murdered their wives, thinking that because they are cops they will get a way with it......In my very humble opin. I think the bf did do it, look at what he is facing, separated from his wife with 2 kids(?) some one said, he already has one child by his gf and another one due in 2 wks, on Nancy Grace, just found out that his wife just found out that he is having another child by his gf, more than likely getting a divorce some he is more than likely will have to pay alimony to his stbx child support for his two kids, house payment insurance, on a cops' pay with down there is stretching it a bit.......
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I didn't say the cop didn't do it... he could have. I don't THINK he did since the crime was sloppy and a cop....being an expert on crime scenes usually....usually...will be more careful than others.
Could he have done it??? Yep.... likely in my opinion, nope. And where did you get your facts about the cops thinking they would get away with it because they were cops??? I am just curious since even having been in the field, I have never heard one cop admit that he did it thinking he would get away with it since he was a cop.
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I watch a lot of court tv, recently they had a show where the cop shot and killed a woman that he had a grudge against, claiming that she pulled a gun on him when he entered the bedroom, she had called 911 because she knew when, it was him outside with another cop, he had dried to date her and he tried to frame her son for selling guns,he almost got away with it, why because he is a cop and who would have thought that a cop would do something like that, are you familar with the scandal that went on with the New Orleans Pd years ago ..........it happens
Just because it was sloppy doesn't mean a thing some times being to close to your job you go into what I call a zone where things become so redundant that you over look the big picture.
They keep showing a picture of him sitting on the curb with his weddindband on, not sure why he kept it on
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The husband is sounding worse and worse. Turns out he has ANOTHER OC with a different woman -
From Fox News -
"He has two children with his wife and another child with a woman named Nikki Giavasis, who now lives in California, according to The Repository, a Canton, Ohio, newspaper.
Before joining the Canton Police Department in 1998, Cutts was charged with aggravated criminal trespass for breaking into Giavasis' home and pleaded no contest, The Repository reported. He was found guilty and placed on three years probation, according to the paper, and became a police officer in 2000.
In February 2003, he was fired from the force after an investigation into how his cousin had wound up with Cutts' weapon, The Repository reported. Cutts said the weapon was stolen, but police determined he'd given it to the cousin. He was later reinstated, however, after an arbitrator intervened, according to the newspaper."
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I've known people who were in abusive relationships with policemen, and couldn't report it and/or weren't believed because of that.
Some people are attracted to becoming policemen not because they want to help others, but for the sense of power.
I am praying fervently for comfort and healing for that little boy.
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We have had betrayed spouses on this very forum who lived with very abusive police officers [there is one case NOW] who were terrified to report said abuse. They were afraid he would retaliate against them. Very scary.
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Has any mention been made in any of the papers of where the little boy who witnessed what happened is now? Sadly, I think he's probably the only living victim to worry about at this point.
Given the situation, he might be safer with other family rather than in the custody of his father.
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We have had betrayed spouses on this very forum who lived with very abusive police officers [there is one case NOW] who were terrified to report said abuse. They were afraid he would retaliate against them. Very scary. Hasn't there been some that their WS has fathered more than one child outside the marriage too? I have to admit, everytime I read something like this I wonder if it's an MB person. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> committed
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I'm pretty sure he is with his maternal grandmother. I read that she (grandmother) was told to not question him, to let any memories surface without influence.
It must be extremely difficult for her to not question him when he was the last person known to have seen her DD.
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Myschae his maternal grandmother has the child.
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I don't think it was a cop as this did not occur in a donut shop.
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I'm wondering how it could be the cop, the little boy witnessed the crime. I don't think he's a total stranger to his son with the missing woman. She was pregnant with another child by him. The little boy could easily identify him as the one that took his mommy.
The BW wouldn't be able to carry the OW's body out by herself if she was unconcious, at least it would be extremely difficult. So I wonder how it could have been her.
Murder for hire maybe? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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That's my theory, too. Mulan
Me, BW WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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They knew what was going on with her and this married man and their *two* OCs but are doing nothing but praising her for being such a wonderful person. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Por favor...... But then, I'm biased.
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ML, Jayne... others. I am personally offended anytime a cop betrays both his badge or his spouse by engaging in abuse. While I do not hold cops to a different standard as far as infidelity goes... abuse is another story all together. I have offered and will continue to offer anyone here that is a vistim of assault by a police officer my personal help. I do not take this lightly and hate the attitudes that cops are more likely to abuse than others... it simply is not true. A roofer..a carpeneter...a ceo... are all just as likely to abuse their spouse, even more so.. BUT a cop should be held to a higher standard in regards to this stuff. Anyone that needs direction and that is afraid to handle this alone, contact me here or off board... I will help you to the best of my ability.
BTW... a woman is more likely to file a false report of abuse against a cop than others...I have seen it and have read studies that support it. In my personal experience less than 50% of the calls for abuse are actually founded... and a good percentage of those are a woman assaulting a man... and as many times as not (even with the law changes) the woman doesn't wind up getting locked up. A thought for the readers here...how many men have actually been slapped at one time or another by the gf's or wives??? I believe that it is a much higher percentage than men that have hit their women. But these things are either not reported or grossly under reported...just like a woman being a dead beat mom.
Men that hit a woman in anything more than self defense are trash and need to be taken to the curb. Anyone that needs help dealing with a cop doing this should reach out.
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Thanks MEDC.
Well, this guy is looking badder and badder. Now the OOW (other OW) is claiming he abused her daughter. Seems she had a couple of RO's out against him, and finally had to move to California to escape him.
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MEDC, I agree with everything you said. Like you said, cops are not anymore likely to be abusers than anyone else. And they should be held to higher standards, as you stated. We count on them to protect us, so when they harm someone, it is very chilling. Thankfully, most cops are the good guys.
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A newborn infant less than 24 hours old has been found unharmed...umbilical cord still attached about 45 miles from the place this woman is missing from! Let's hope that child remains safe and that mom is okay too.
Also....very unusual, but the police investigating this have said that the cop is neither a suspect nor a person of interest. To me it appears as though they have an idea as to who has done this and have just not released the data yet.
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