ok--hubby is a truck driver, so his OW he just confessed about is a secretary somewhere. He tells me it's been 2 months (who knows) and tells me he also loves her.
Makes me sick, I've lost 5# in 3 days.
I had no clue, everything seemed fine..sex, interactions, life...no clue. He tells me he loves her also..how are you suppose to deal with that?
We've been married 24yrs, add another. Got a 22yr old, and a 20yr old and a granddaughter. He came clean to the boys--not sure if that was the wise thing to do but felt they would notice him not being home and mom sad and sick. He's got so much to lose.
According to the Dr. I'll give him 3-4 weeks, do plan A & B, etc...I'm willing to forgive and rebuild.
My problem is how do I? He's got to be willing to come home in order for it to work. Do I just sit and wait and see if he chooses me?
How can he "love" the OW when he's only known her for such a short period of time? He tells me she didn't know he was married..BTW--I was bad, she knows now. I left her a cell phone message which wasn't too nice.

I'm trying to be strong, but it's hard and I can't work on a marriage when I don't have the partner at home.
Any input?
Thanks!

yahzah, go th GQII--you will get a lot more help there.

Good luck.

My story is pretty much the same so I know exactly how you feel. I'm so sorry for you. I lost 25# in 3 weeks. WH moved in with OW only 2 weeks after he told me about her. It really sucks and it seems impossible to pull off a respectable Plan A when you are so distraught and they leave so quickly. But actually, once he is out of the house you will find it a bit easier (hard to believe, I know). You don't have to see him every day to do it and there are so many things that need to be taken care of by both of you that he won't drop off the face of the earth or anything.