I (fully) found out about my WH A Apr 30. I tryed to expose a little in the begginning of May. This was before I knew about MB. Also since that time I have a lot more people I could contact on both sides.
My WH and I talk pretty regular now, but anytime the A is brought up he all of a sudden has to get off the phone for whatever reason. We are also geographically seperated (Me-military, WH-med school, hispanic country). I know he is still seeing OW.
I am afraid if I try once again it will drive him further away from me and he will no longer call or answer my calls. Also, if he doesn't call me, should I even try to call him? He has been sitting on the fence whenever I ask him what he wants as far as to D or not. He knows how I feel, no D. He also said that he would not do telephone counseling. I don't know that if I fully exposed if that would drive him to want to D. He is very stubborn. I know that his family loves and supports me but they are not very much help because their stance is that he is a grown man and makes his own choices. But I talked with his mother last night and she said she would do anything that I wanted.
Any advice?

trish:

I understand that you are in the Military.

You state you have a mortgage, and are paying the rent somewhere. Is this at your new duty station? Of for your WH?

First, about your mortgage? Contact your base legal office. Explain to them your situation. Members of the active military, have certain protection against foreclosure of thier personal residences. Make sure you have looked into THAT before you allow anything else to happen. Many lenders will ignore these provisions, if allowed too. Do not alow them.

Please stay to one thread, it allows folks to catch up on your sitch, and to offer consistent advice.

When does your tour end?

LG

Lousygolfer,
It is our mortgage and rent on a house for me. Since he left I have quit sending money. I have two years left, but have looked into switching over to the Guard. They are making it really easy to get out now if you want to. But I can't do that until my house is sold. Sorry about creating a new thread. I'm desperate. Thanks for the help.