Get to snooping, Yaw...if she was arrested...there's public records...get online and search for the story...even if it's a smaller-size town (I realize you don't know exactly where)...see if this is truth or fiction (WS's don't often know the difference).
You know, you can go with him, anyway, on the road...right? He says he needs time to think...which is to carry on, often, the A and contact. When you go with him, you may pick up a lot of information for exposure, and verify no contact or contact.
That's living in truth, Yaw...not limbo. Stop going into the fantasy of what he may or may not be feeling, thinking, believing right now...to know your own is a whole lot of effort. And you know you fear the unknown...which is the biggest cause of going where you have no control. DJs are mindreading, like fortune telling, and we go into them, use them for false comfort, because we fear the unknown greatly.
Yet every day of your life has been a day of unknown, in reality, hasn't it? We live in it, steeped in it...we only truly have power in the present.
You can know and hold your fear, and not act from it. Which is an important step toward recovery and thriving, both personally and maritally.
Find the truth independently of your WH. Previous to his A, you chose to buy into all his truth as the truth. Take advantage of this opportunity to know the truth from your truth...and all your choices, 'k? Automatic believing isn't love; blind trust isn't a sign of love...knowing reality, bringing it to your WS is an act of love. Learning the difference MAKES all the difference in marriage.
LA
