I have been in denial for a while. But my H and I are currently MISERABLE living together. Even though I want to stay in the marriage, I can live with him the way he is. So we talked and decided that he would move out and find a apartment close by.

There is so much hurt to get over between the 2 of us, we thought it would be best to be apart before we can move on.

We have no children, but have 2 dogs that need to be taken care of at lunchtime and since he works nearby would still be willing to do this. He also said that he would keep up with his tasks like mowing the lawn and such even though he wouldn't be living here.


I guess my questions is can a seperation ever help a marriage? And for those of you that have been seperated what kind of plan did you use to help rebuild friendship first? Did you seek MC, or try scheduled dates? Need any advice I can get.

unless there is an issue of abuse and safety which is being addressed through counseling, I would say that "no" it would not be helpful to a marriage.

No! Do NOT seperate! It's the worse thing you can do. Did you read HNHN yet? Whatever happened with the PI?

It turns out my parents never hired a PI. They just told me they did because they say they were trying to OPEN my eyes. Which they did :P. But now my H is really angry and says he does not want to be part of a family such as mine that are 'crazy'.

I am in the process of reading HNHN.

I am at wits end. I am tired of being miserable and my H seems to be making seperation the only option.