I've been lying to my wife about something I did almost eight years ago. After many long disscusions and sleepless
nights,I have finally told her the truth. There are some things that we both have to work on. The thing that scares me is that I wont be able to stop lying. Even about the little things. Ive been lying for so long, that sometimes I dont know that Im doing it. All these years have passed by,and I have finally seen the light. But what if I back slide? How can I make myself stop? I know that I need help. Has anyone else faced something like this?

Any and all comments are welcome.

Welcome to MB. Your signature reminds me of something one of the greats here on MB says a lot..."to try is to lie" so I had to respond.

How has your wife handled your admission? How is your marriage otherwise?

You can stop lying once you realize that it is, and always has been, within your power to do so. Lying is a choice you make. Whenever you began lying, you found that it protected you from something, someone's anger, disappointment or responsibility. You received some benefit from it. After repeating this behavior so many times it has become a habit but like any habit can be broken.

Is there something in particular that triggered this desire to turn over a new leaf? In other words, did something happen that caused lying to no longer appear as an attractive alternative (protection from other's feelings, etc.) as it once was?