WS broke the news to me 2 weeks ago today. No clue, he's a truckdriver.
Ya know he met her 2 months ago and is "in love" .. whatever. He's tormented cuz he loves me too...yeah right.

So the following week - we find out my sister has terminal cancer. Aprox 2 yrs to live. I've been at the hospital and calling her. She's only 51, this is devastating news.
When my husband should be home supporting me, he isn't. He tells me that he hasn't seen her only cuz he can't make up his mind who he loves more. Who wants to hear that?

I've been through the pain and hurt (still am) but decided since he's not coming home that I've got to go on with life and wrote my Plan B letter. I had to read it on the phone cuz there's no place I can mail it. Anyway, it was an excellent letter and at the end told him to take care of himself.
I felt empowered by this, and knowing he won't contact me will make it easier. Hearing his voice and the lousy explanations won't hurt me anymore. Somewhat of a reprieve.

Still not sleeping through the night, doubled on nerve pills,lots of deep breaths and prayers.
my focus is on my sister now, in an odd twisted way it's a relief.

Thanks people!

I wish all the best for you and your sister. I can't imagine going through what I'm going through right now and dealing with that kind of stress at the same time. Good luck to you.

Why do you assume that he isn't coming home? Did you do any Plan A at all??

I assume it because when he talks to me he defends OW and tells me he can't make a decision. I should have been "the one".
I'm also not sure if I can work through this -it's the 2nd time I know of...hearing that your H loves someone else tears me up.
Yes did Plan A, but he's never home and it's up to him to fix himself. This board is full of hope for couples, yet it seems most posts I look at people are divorced.
I never have felt like I was the most important thing to him, he's always been a selfish man which I catered to. I love him so deep but he didnt' show me any respect by destroying me.
I don't want to have false hope, time will tell. I will wait it out, but I have other pressing issues and I know I will survive either way.