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Please help me with this Plan A problem
#1902545 07/02/07 01:06 AM
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I received this email from my WH tonight. How should I respond and what do I need to to?

Barb
I hope you had a good weekend. So what shall we do about this week and the house? Can we work together to get the work done?
Call me tomorrow and let me know. Talk to you soon I hope.
George

thank you

BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
WH and OW broke up 1-09
Started over 7-09
Re: Please help me with this Plan A problem
QueeniesAdventures #1902546 07/06/07 12:48 AM
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let him come over and ask him squarely 'what do you expect from me now?' then 'whats in it for me?'
get as many asnwers as you can, find out his intentions, especially with what he wants to do about the OW,does he want to end it with her? you'll be needing proof of that too, if he does, like the letter everyone talks about.

explain you will not share, and that he must end it with her (with proof) before you will consider reconciliation.

good luck!

BS: 38(me) WS: 37 (living with OW) DD: 3.5 yrs DS: 2.5 yrs married: 7 yrs A started: Oct 06 D Day: 1/1/07 OW: single, works with my husband, living with my husband
Re: Please help me with this Plan A problem
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Hi skinsgal,

Take the opportunity to find out if you guys are on the same page. Be prepared to listen to things you don't want to hear. When you know where he is at and what he is prepared to do to fix your M, then you can decide what you yourself are prepared to do.

I agree with solei...put your foot down, and tell him you will not share him.

Lots of luck.

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