My wife won't fill out the questionnaires, so I'm having to take my best guess, but I think these are my LBs for her, in order from biggest to smallest. Can anyone give me some advice on how to work on them?
Annoying Habits
She always hates it when I ask her too many questions (idle questions, she calls them), or ask the same quesiton twice. I'm trying to listen carefully and not ask her as much. I'm also a big-time procrastinator (as is she).
Disrespectful Judgements
During the 2004 elections I became very involved politically and my wife and I were of opposite opinions most of the time. It got to where she will not allow us to discuss politics at all, ever. I still like to read political blogs and listen to radio shows. Should I stop this all together, or is it okay to just not do it in her presence?
Independent Behavior
What can I do to make her know I want her involvement and approval in all aspects of my life
Selfish Demands
I am trying to help with the housework, which I did almost none of before
Angry Outbursts
These are very rare for me
Dishonesty
This is something I am very guilty of, but I don't think she knows it yet. (see my prevoius post)
ALSO, how can I best meet her Emotional Needs? This is my guess as to the order of importance of her needs:
Affection - I'm trying to show affection as much as possible, but am I smothering her?
Sexual Fulfillment - She won't let me try to fulfill this need
Domestic Support - I'm trying to be better
Recreational Companionship - Probably doing better here than anywhere else
Admiration - Not sure how to do this without it sounding contrived
Honesty & Openness - I could be in big trouble here
Conversation - I'm trying, but sometimes she acts annoyed or exasperated with me
Attractiveness - She says this is not a problem
Financial Support - I have been supporting her on one income for years
Family Commitment - Trying to spend more time with our children
A big THANK YOU to anyone who has bothered to read this far. I would really appreciate any advice you can give.
