finetoapoint,

troll suspect #1

see: Recovery Troll post

If you desire further information.

Besides...this thread isn't entertaining...if it's true, it's tragic. This woman is way down the road of recovery only to discover she took the wrong road...no wait, she hasn't discovered that part...yet. Sorry to ruin the ending.

Mr. Wondering

Hey sweetsobriquet,

Your "tale" is very ordinary. Nothing special at all. Its the dauntingly typical selfish fodder every active self-serving unrepentent WS spews. A script that could almost be recited word for word.

When you have reached the point where you begin to realize the destruction YOUR very poor choices have made and how they have severly impacted your children, your husband and your marriage, come back and we'll support you. Until then, happy trails in your delusional FOG.

Jo

I am removing this posting by mutual agreement with my husband. Thank you all for your interesting remarks and thoughtful comments.

Actually, I am NOT divorced. I never updated my profile and frankly my marriage is none of your business. This woman is blameshifting all of her marital woes on her H. Her writing style smells of soap operaish book writing to me.

As for her taking her H's feelings into consideration? Bullhockey! A wayward has an obligation to answer any and all questions that they betrayed spouse requires answered. period!

Oh and "finetoapoint" to defend many posters here on MB that ARE divorced, it does NOT spell failure on that person's part. Some people succesfully recover on a personal level but the marriage cannot be salvaged. D does not equal failure.

Not surprisingly, you missed the point. Its repeat of what we've read so many times we can type it for you in our sleep. We certainly don't need you "cautioning us" to beware of such ordinary poor behavior.

What we do find interesting and worth our time is a 'former" cheater who has emerged from their selfish behaviors and feels remorse for the hurt they have placed on others.

Now thats a tale worth reading and supporting.

Yes, or troll-bait!

Sweet, when you're done writing your book, before sending it to any publishing houses for consideration, you may want to proof read it for accuracy. In your first post, you say you told your BH about your A the day before the abortion. In later post, you change it to fit the story and say you told him the day after......

Regards,

BB

I am removing this posting by mutual agreement with my husband. Thank you all for your interesting remarks and thoughtful comments.

I am removing this posting by mutual agreement with my husband. Thank you all for your interesting remarks and thoughtful comments.

I am removing this posting by mutual agreement with my husband. Thank you all for your interesting remarks and thoughtful comments.

Can you say "projection". LMAO

Finetoapoint = sweetsobriquet

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If this is your best work, don't quit your day job.

Perhaps your "cautionary tale" is wasted here.

Maybe you need to post it on TOW.

I am Bellevue. Long time member.

I just finished reading this thread. Here is my assessment:

The writer is really a man
The writer is a troll
" " doesn't want dialogue; he wants to put his fantasy up on our board
He has had letters successfully printed in Penthouse Forum but had his manuscripts rejected by all other publishers;
He is not writing for his audience; he is writing for his ego
Oh, did I mention also, a troll.

But remember, my judgment is suspect; I've been told that I'm crazy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

>I've been told that I'm crazy.

Was that the voices in YOUR head the voices in MY head were arguing with?

git ouda there

no, you git ouda there!

who you?

who all dese voices squatting in my brain?

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Bell,

I suspect a male as well.

especially...finetoapoint's posts.

Mr. W


p.s. - I compared your husband to a dog because that is how you treat/treated him (he still doesn't know OM's name) and you planted the dog analogy in my head when you said the following which struck me oddly when surrounded by seeming, apparent or supposed real life examples of what you didn't tell your husband (maybe they were ALL just examples but you added "which I considered a plus" seemingly making at least one item personal...why not the fleas comment as well. woof, woof):

WOW..... I have just read this whole thing. JEESH....

I only want to add a few things:
1. exposure is supposed to be for a reason.
2. Please have some idea what the OP's spouse is like before exposing a dead affair. This person could very well, take it so badly as to cause permanent harm.
3. But, answer EVERY question a spouse has about the affair. My XH still hasn't disclosed everything and I still want know the details. It was very important to me to know everything even though it cause excruciating pain. At least then, the lies would have stopped and that was really the worst part for me. Sweet, you said that you didn't tell him the man's name even though he wore himself out trying to find out, then you said that if your H really wanted to know something you told him....you backtalked yourself pretty well there.

Loni

Sweet,

Let's assume for a moment that this "cautionary tale" is for real. I guess I am at a loss as to what you are cautioning people about.

Is it that you cannot trust a woman that "plans" to have an affair?

Is it that life is unfair and that sometimes people are handed some really tough things to endure? The caution would them be perhaps...don't live such a life???

Is it that a self-focused person NEVER sees the other people in their lives?

Is it that innocent children pay for someone having an affair?

Is it that you actually learned something about relationships and marriage and you are cautioning everyone to do this early in the marriage rather than plan and have an affair, focus on children and not your spouse, and have little apparent remorse for what has transpired.

Is it that you can blame shift your marriage and your behavior on to your H although he had a undiagnosed medical condition and your children (most of them) have a diagnosed medical condition?

What exactly are you cautioning about in this "tale"?

But, what I am really interested in is have you learned anything and have you developed a conscience yet? Your statement about the "real world" suggests that you hold open the option to have more affairs and leave your H if things don't go right.

I look forward to your response.

JL