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PT,
Your OM knew what he was doing was wrong, now he's paying the price...you are too. Untangling lies is not an easy business. Please don't beat yourself up for telling the truth...it would have come out eventually anyways. I do hope this helps prevent similar dangerous activities from occurring though.
God Bless you and I hope you can find peace in your life.
AKA
VowsRSacred/ VRS
Me 44 WH 46
dd Mar 7 06
Dday 2 Jan 19 07 EA and PA
DD 19
DS 10
DS 7
DD 4
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Wow. I feel for you because I have had to live with lies told about me that had NO basis of truth, but were believed anyway. Yes, you made a huge mistake. Yes, you acknowledged it and changed the sitch. And yes, people will surprise you every day with how low and petty and mean they can be.
As to the EA you had, did you ever think that was the devil's way of getting you? Until then, you had been the one following all the rules. When you H succumbed to porn, you fell into the trap of believing yourself to be above any temptation. It's normal and common to do that. The devil loves it though because he can get a good christian to throw it all away.
Just my humble opinion
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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Thank you for your thoughts. I've learned something from all this.
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Yes, I have oddly enough. I just hope time heals all wounds, like they say. I believe I can grow and learn from all this, but it's hard to understand why a person has to go through things like this in life. Thank you for your response.
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(((( palmtree)))
A big hug for you. I have to believe that things happen to people so they can learn something from them or to benefit the world in some way. Otherwise, it would just be so hard to deal with the idea that bad people and bad actions will have no justice and nothing good comes from the suffering. I have also been told that God was making me into gold. One of the steps of making gold is to melt it at very high temperatures. Seems pretty painful but at the end you end up with pure, refined gold. Valuable, priceless, treasured.
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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