And therein lies the rub. People can only change themselves. People behave according their OWN standards, not according to the personal behavior standards of OTHERS. So it is ludicrous to spend endless hours [and I do mean endless, because it never ends] scrutinizing the posting styles of others helps no one, because people who want to change, CHANGE. No one can be changed against their will.


oh no, I am objecting to WHAT is being said, not HOW it is said. I don't give a ratsass HOW somebody says something, I care about the CONTENT of what is said. This thread is hand wringing and teeth gnashing over the TONE of other folks' posts, an exercise in futility [aka: superiority] that will avail absolutely nothing and always leads nowhere. It is a fruitless attempt to straighten others out. Here we go again. Now what was that definition of insanity? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Mel-

I personally find your posts at least as disrespectful as you seem to find mine.

There's no value in continuing this conversation. Neither of us will change. We've both wasted enough time on this.

It's not only disrespectful, it is arrogant as well. To think that your posting style is better or more effective, in other words better than someone else's, is arrogance.

It would be like me telling GB he needs to speak with the same accent I have if he wants people to listen to him the way they listen to me.

He did not grow up in the same places as I did, he did not have a french canadian mother and he probably couldn't do my accent even if he tried. Nor could I do his midwestern WI accent. And how would I even know what other people feel or respond to best, when they hear different accents.

Some people hate a NJ accent, and some people love them. Just like southern accents. Who would want a southern to sound just like a northerner?

Not a very good example, but posting styles may be kind of like accents. You got yours, and I got mine so lets just enjoy the difference and get on with things.

And I agree with every word you spoke here and feel the same way. I don't have the power to change anyone on this forum, nor would I try. It is not and never was my goal to change you or OWL.

graplin, I agree with starfish! I love your posts!

Most times "change" occurs when the pain of staying the same outweighs the pain of change.

This is what I have learned.