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New thread for quick advice.
During my snooping I discovered something very sickening today! I got his username/pwd to his email and went from there. OM has posted "adult" pic's of my WW on an adult web site!!!!!! Not sexual but her naked...looks to be cell phone pics as the resolution sucks.
WW and I have been discussing her coming home and I feel Plan A has been working, been 6 wks.
Now, does she know OM did this..their idea together? Or is he that much of a deviant that he did this to get his rocks off? It is a swingers web site.....
What do I do???? I know what I want to do but what do the level headed experts think? If I tell her and she doesnt know then major LB between them. If she knows then LB for us and I don't know what I would do. That may be just the straw I need to have to end it. Again, this is not a joke! This is for real....the more snooping I do the worse it gets.
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I'm no expert but if I were you I would let her know. You love her right? I would just die if a naked photo of me were posted publicly on a swingers website.
You know your wife, would this be something that would humiliate her? Do you think she knows about it, or would allow it, with your best guess? Allowing that WS turn into aliens.
I think if I loved her I would have to tell her. Just be prepared for the backlash if she gets angry at you.
Anyway to let her know without her knowing it was you?
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Anyway to let her know without her knowing it was you? That was what I was thinking to. Can you say somthing like; "A co workers friend said that he saw a pic of you on ????? web site. I took a look and yup it is you." Something like that as to not give away your source.
M2L
ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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You could also confide in a family member who is CLOSE TO YOU AND ONLY YOU about the issue. You could then set it up so that if she want to speak with the person who "saw he and how he saw her" you have a valid person and story to use.
There are many sneaky ways you can get to the bottom of things and ind out the truth. Just make sure you convey CONCERN and not judge her- otherwise you will take some backwards steps...
Best of luck- let us know what happens.
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