Hey! I hope this finds everyone here well. I am not so good,.

He came home for about 3 weeks. He claims he was trying to stop talking to all the women, but he was lying. I lost my job the day after he came home.

So he left me again. He left me and the kids with no phone, no job, lost my house, about to lose my car and no money. The electric was shut off yesterday.

I have ZERO respect for him. I hate him. He is being wishy washy about the divorce and even getting his stuff out of the house.

So much has happened. He wants his freedom. Plain and simple. He wants to do what he wants when he want it and doesn't want to answer to me. His words.

What kind of man leaves their family like this? And he has no guilt over it. He isn't really helping. He gave me diapers, $200 and a phone number to call. I told him I need more than that.

I feel so abandonded. I am at the lowest point right now,. I can't even think anymore.

I am pretty sure this is the last of my story. He doesn't even care about what he done. He says he does, and that he wants to do whatever it takes to prove he is sorry. Problem is that he doesn't. He says the words but doesn't folow through. I hate him for all of this.

HM:

OUCH!

Sorry HM!

((HM))

LG

Oh HM -- that is horrible.

Are you getting help?
Unemployment? Assistance?

I'm sure your love for him is draining away at a rapid pace....

Holy,

I am so sorry. It is time for you to start acting.

So here is what you should do. Go See a lawyer to find out what your options are. He doesn't decide what he pays and when he pays.

Next go to Wellfare, WIC, the church and any other Charity you can get too.

Sell his stuff if you have to.

Your main responsibility is those children, it is time to be thw woman you know you can be.

HM,

I'm so sorry to hear your current circumstances...and very happy you came back to MB. Listen to the posters, choose to act...and take your focus off of him.

Sounds like you got lost and run over. Stand up. Shake off the dust...and stand tall.

Bring reality to yourself and stop going into fantasy. WH is in there enough for an army.

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Hear and feel the love of these posters and act...like Frog said...and grow some more...and then some more, 'k?

Show your children how you choose your life...who's in it, who is not...your power, your limits...get your legal rights in order and go to Plan B.

You can do this...document, document, document...the fiscal infidelity as well as the physical/emotional, 'k?

Knowing reality...doesn't mean focusing on his stuff...it's knowing what is real and what isn't.

Keep posting this time, HM...you want to get all the way through, don't you?

LA

P.S. I resisted saying this as long as possible..."Holy Moly, Holymoly!" There. Now I feel better.

Holy moly, Holymoly is right...

I have no words of wisdom for you but I will say a prayer for you.

JinGA

I really hate to see things like this. Gosh I am so sorry to hear this. Please go to a Lawyer and get some help. Your H is in fantasy land and needs a dose or reality. My MoM left my dad years ago and destroyed everything so I know what you are going thru.

This is the reason that I think people should really think twice on trying to take back a wayward spouse. If you have a WS who immediatly repents and does everything to make ammends then that would make sense to me. But far to often I see where the BS tries to recover the marriage at almost any cost and it seems to make the WS feel that they are entitled to destroy peoples lives with impunity.

Please go and get some public assistance and get legal advice. I just hate it when WS will treat a complete stranger better than their own family and kids. Good luck and my prayers are with you.

Thank you everyone. I stopped posting because the internet came from my job, which I no longer have. I am at moms.

I spent the day looking for any kind of assistance. of course WS is of NO help. He offered to call but then said the wait was too long.

I truly hate him at this point.

Oh..and to add..my EX called me to say if I divorce WS that HE will pay for it. He said what WS is doing to you is just plain torture. I couldn't believe it,.

Well, I've heard this one! I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this...

Your WH and my STBX don't sound to far off the mark...

(((((HM))))

Let us know if we can do anything for you!

me too !

Mee three!

HM - I am so sorry to hear of the changes in your sitch.

Do what you know you have to do for your kids. That is your #1 priority.

ASK for help. Do mot let pride or anger stand in the way.

You did not create thisn however you are, unfortunately left to deal with it.

AND YOU CAN!

{{HM}}