My husband and i have been married for 7 years. Heres the twist i have divorced him twice and remarried him, but total we have been married 7years. When we first got married i had an affair, and told him about it. The affair came from him not spending any time or attention to my needs. Befor we got married i told that i required alot of time and attention and he stated he had no problem with that. Well that wasnt true. Anyhow, when i told him he didnt flip out or anything he said he repested my honesty. Moving along nothing changed still no time, no attention, no romanance, but he expects sex. about a year ago, i suffered a major depression due to him because we had seperated because of some financial problems that caused us to start living with his biological mother (my husbands adopted) well he really didnt know her but i agreed only to be far to both of them allowing them the chance to get to know each other, but in the end i moved out and stated with my mother for about two months before gettingin back on my feet. It was around the holiday time and my husband didnt call to spend any time or nothing, so once i moved and got my own apartment he started calling trying to come home and i told him no, because he didnt spend anytime with me during the holidays and now you want to start calling once i get my apartment. Moving along, i started letting stay a few nights over, but noticed something wasnt right, so i tapped into his vm one day and there was a lady leaving him messages. I bought to his attention and he tried to deny things. Anyhow, i found out he had been staying with this girl for a month. He came telling me he wanted his family back and things were just really hard, and i laid out everything on the table before taking him back. Well after taking him back, i went into a depression and he wasnt even by my side and went threw it alone. I still deal with things on my own, i tell him about our sex life and how i feel that there is no bonding or anything there, when we have sex is just the act. He still spends no time, no romance, no communication, nothing. Not to mention one day this week i came home early and he had left his computer on with his music and i looked on the internet page and he has been looking at porn. I called him up and demanded an explaination and he replied by stating i wont have sex with, and we had just had sex four days ago. i mentioned to him that it seems to be ok for him to get all his needs meet but my needs dont even get acknowledged. My husbands relationship with the kids is just fine, it just seems to be me. Last night i told him that i was planning on moving out because nothing is changing and listed all the above mentioned as reasons, his reply was i do love but i am also getting old and can keep living my life no knowing where i will be tomorrow, and how he feels he cant be himself. I told that there were alot of things i changed when we got married and its like he is unwilling to make changes and he walked off. Please someone tell me if i am wrong. I dont want to have another affair because its not right and if i have a husband should he not take care of my needs
Last edited by tiffan1; 07/14/07 09:44 AM.
