Adultery doesn't have to end in divorce. However...it IS a wake-up call...one true warning that something is wrong with the M.

One of the first steps experts suggest is for you to acknowledge the A. It's difficult to do, especially for those coming out of a "perfect family." Falling in denial is the easy way out. You ignore your instincts, fail to confront your spouses about the affair, and make emotional tradeoffs with yourselves --- tradeoffs that ultimately serve neither yourselves nor your marriage.

Rebuilding trust is another difficult process that you both have to undergo. And this often requires that you do some extra work to fix your M, including telling your spouse where they can find you or keep in touch with you. It sucks if you never had to before...but all that changes the moment you cheat.

When your spouse is ready, you can start to go beyond words when try to express your feelings for your spouse and showing how much you value him/her and how much respect you have for him/her.

Lots of luck in your journey to reconnection.

Rebuilding trust is a difficult process ....You don't say ?

Have you read the articles Dr Harley provides on the main pages of the Mb site,PP ?

You think your unsolicited advice adds to or clarifies any of it ?

If not, why post it unless you're advertising a service ?

PassionPeach,

Please do yourself a favor. Read and educate yourself on the Harley's principles before you start offering advice on their boards.

Thank you,
Jo

Passionpeach's website offers links that are ridiculously close to those on TOW.

Enough said.

Go troll for business elsewhere.

SB