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A few months ago, WH was taking the kids for an outing. This is usually their thing and I said I was going with. He talked me out of going! Said they wouldn't be long and I needed to get groceries anyhow.

So they went. DS came all excited about meeting new friends (OW has a S and D around DD's age). And about how they saw "dad's friend". I questioned and he said it was someone from school that he ran into.

Of course, lies! lies! lies!

As I think back to certain times, I've asked him ?'s. He admitted that he wanted OW to meet the kids and see them interact. "And they really like her"

I am STEAMING MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

He swears they haven't been around OW since. He did not take oldest DS as I assume he would "know" that this was not just dad's friend.

Ok. I need to read the plan A stuff. My head is just so messed up I've just been spending hours and hours reading other's stories.


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Get a temporary order to secure financial obligations on his behalf and ask that the Judge not allow OW around the children or that WH expose them to his adultery. Get your attorney on this ASAP otherwise you are condoning it and can't use it in court should it come to that,.

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Well, I know how you feel. My WW had OM move in while I have been in the Middle East working. My kids were calling me by his name when I would go on R&R. Trust me, I know how you feel.


Romans 8:28-All things work together for good for those that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.
BH (me) 30 yrs old (Currently in Middle East until August)
WW 32 yrs old
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Well, I know how you feel. My WW had OM move in while I have been in the Middle East working. My kids were calling me by his name when I would go on R&R. Trust me, I know how you feel.

that is sad <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I am sorry to hear that.


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It can get ugly. Right now, OW won't let my WH see our son unless she is there. They took him to the movies on the weekend and spent the whole movie making out while poor DS sat and watched them like a 3rd wheel. He is 19 and is old enough to cut off his father if this behavior continues.

Along the same lines, OW and WH took OW's 7 year old daughter on dates before either OWH or I were aware of the A. They used to kiss and make out in front of her and this was part of how OWH found out about the A (I found out afterwards when OWH threw OW out of the house and WH had to leave me in order to stay with her).

It makes me sick that they engage in such cruel behavior to the kids. Everything on this site that says the WS has been possessed by an alien is true because no decent human would treat a child this way.


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