My wife went out with a male friend that she promised she would not talk to but because we had a argument she called him. When I saw the number on caller ID she told me that she just needed to talk to somebody. She then called me right back and said she was not going to do it because it would be inappropriate but that she was going to go dancing any way. I went to the club that we both decided was not in our best interest to attend alone and saw her car and went in. I found her there talking to a guy named Reggie who she described as a friend she talked to this guy all night she did wear her wedding ring and she had on my favorite dress, is the writing on the wall? Please pray that God's will prevail!<P>------------------<BR>Eugene

One thing that we've all learned on here is to trust our instincts. If you think something is going on, then it probably is. Sorry.<P>Other thing is, no married man or woman should talk to someone of the opposite sex about marriage troubles. It opens up a relationship that is bound to cause trouble. Period.<P>That said, only you know your W. None of us know if this is normal for her, what her history is, or what's going on for her. You might. <P>Did you ask her about Reggie?? The wedding ring still on is a good sign too. You are beginning to go down a road that's gonna be difficult. I wish you blessings on your journey, and stay here - keep posting and asking questions. This is a good place <P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

read the books and advice given here at MB. If you think theres something there, there ususally is. sorry. if you snoop, be prepared for the emotional consequences.but you have to decide what it is you want....take care and come back often, lotsa people here in the same boat.

Dear Eugene:<BR>I found out...follow your instincts! That is your most inner true friend who won't lie to you. Listen to your inner soul, your inner voice...I listened to my instincts along with many of the posts saying that my h was having an affair...guess what..my instincts were right. Sorry. I know that is what you probably don't want to hear. But, it's better to be prepared then not. Be aware and keep your eyes wide open...sooner or later the answer will reveil itself.

Eugene - Don't get me started.<P>--Wex

Eugene, Man does this have a familiar ring to it. Trust your instincts. If you feel that something isn't right, it probably isn't. My W's "friend" doesn't live close so I deal with huge phone bills when she needs to talk. <BR>We're here for you. Good luck.<P>------------------<BR><BR>That Which does not kill us makes us stronger.<BR>

Hi, Eugene. First, I'm sorry that you have to be here but it's a good place to be if you have to Second, like everyone else has stated trust your instincts. I have learned after being through it myself that a woman should not be in a position of being with another man in a bar scene. This is NOT conducive to a GOOD and healthy marriage. I'm sorry for the people who have relaxed marriages and can deal with their spouses going out with their friends, but this can only bring trouble. A BIG red flag, IMO. Please talk to your wife, and if she is acting as if nothing has happened, take note of her behavior (as if I have to tell you this, I'm sure you are already doing so). People in affairs will lie lie lie. And in the process, make you feel as if you are crazy and it isn't fair at all. I was the betrayer and I can see what I caused and feel horrible about it. But I also know what a convoluded person I was and remember so it seems all too familiar to me from reading this thread. Please let us know how you are doing.