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My H and I talked and agreed about a non contest D. He said he would do a non contest agreement, but not file? He wants a chance to get IC and save our M? Can that be done.
I didn't ask the lawyer at the time because I didn't know H would want to do it and then put it on hold. The lawyer said once file it's 10 days is all. I was stunned!
I'm not where I want to be, but thank God I'm not where I use to be!
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Strugglingless, would you please reread your posts?
I'm not sure what your husband is up to, but I'd check with my lawyer first. I'm worried because your husband has been abusive, and part of the abuse cycle is the apologizing and promising things will get better. And they do for a little bit, then they get even worse.
Once the papers are signed by both and delivered, it often doesn't take long. But you two have property and a child who's still under age. Unless your husband gives you everything you want, the child custody and support plus the property settlement will take a while.
In my state, they do everything together. I know some states do allow divorce without the property settlement being done.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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In my state, unless you are separated for a long time, you file with cause. Standard is Extreme Cruelty. Perhaps that's why he is somewhat agreeing. He doesn't want that public.
Get to your lawyer. What GG mentioned is called Divorce by Bed & board in some states, with property to follow.
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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