Hi I am new and glad to be here. My second marriage lasted 6 years and we were in love and compatible physically and very good friends and loved our intimacy. The biggest problems were I was insecure as her family was as demanding for attentions as me. Also I was honest and faithful until a 50 K loan was lied about to me for 6 months. It was to get her 16 yo daughter into a singing career. This hurt me very deeply and she didn't treat my kids as equals and I will be honest I was jealous of them getting more attention than me. I am working on healing that and learning to be satisfied with the many blesings she gave me and beink ok with who she is, which is pretty good all around. Well, I was threatened with divorce over our blending problems and for me not being nioce to her and her family many times. I was being belligerent and needed to just have unconditional love which i am returning through getting in touch again with God.
Finally I became convinced the marriage would end and although didn't want it to I got online and met a gal one time for dinner and that was all. She found out and it was over.We slept together until the day we divorced ( I was 90 miles away but went to her place many weekends). After the divorce I dated alkot and her a little ( she waited longer). I always mised her and we started dating a year ago but I was still angry blaming her not as much as I should have been accepting my mistakes and working on them.
I got a feeling maybe I should move on and she caught me dating when I should have been only with her per our agreement. We broke up then re-united. Well she was struugling with moving to whjere I am now which is only 3 hours away from her family who she is very involved with although I know I would let her go mas much as she wants to see them as I know I am accepting them and her relationship now.
I became worried she would decide not to move here although she hadn't made the ultimate decision yet. I went back on the singles site but put no picture ( I was lonely and bored having no family here) and she figured it out and caught me online again.
She said it was over but then I found the Relationship Rescue book and told her the problem is all me not her and am working diligently on it everyday. Well, she finally communicated again with me and asked why i let it happen and why I didn't just communicate. We had cut our visists back to almost nothing as she lives 3 hours away and is arranging a weding for her daughter next week so I support her in that and know she is very busy and needs to focus on the wedding. She told me we are best friends and lovers and she still loves me and feels betrayed but she was glad I am working on things and she bought the book and said maybe we could work on things while we have a break and see how she feels after the wedding. I finally let her have her space and quit being needy and am not calling her until after the wedding. Does anyone have any advice and does it look like I have a chance? I love her with all my heart and am going to really work on me through counseling,books and practicing how to find both our emotional,physical, social and security needs and become in toiuch again with my inner core and God. She is also going to counseling for her enmeshment with her kids and is also admitting her family has some problems too. I believe she is trying to work things out but am afraid I love her and love being with her and want to grow old together.
Appreciate any comments with humbleness and introspection from those comments.

I have been married twice and I wanted it to be clear that although I did meet a woman for dinner one time I never had any extramarital physical contact.