That’s good Smiley! Make sure you read ALL Mel's posts on that thread - especially the last few ones. You don’t have to keep up with your H’s disrespectful behavior.

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Should I go and bite the bullet and introduce myself online to these female friends? I mean, if he isn't going t do it himself then I should, right?

I was imagining introducing myself and then letting him know that I did it.

What do you guys think?

Counselor thinks I should leave all alone and not cause any conflict.

Smiley,

No, I don't think you should do that. As FaithfulWifeCJ has suggested, rather be honest and open with your H and tell him that you want to be introduced to (by HIM) and included with every one of his female friends. Make it clear to him that this is a boundary issue for you. If your H refuses to do that and refuses to stop one-sided opposite sex friendships with other women, you will know that he does not care about your feelings and is not willing to do what it takes to A proof your M and can act accordingly.

Have you read all Mel's post on the other thread?

I tried to talk to him about this situation and how disprespectful it was to me and our marriage that he continues to do what he does.He blows up again and threatens to leave yet again.

He can't seem to understand that I need to meet his friends. He tells me that he doesn't even go out with these people that they are just co workers. When he moves on to his next career, will he have to introduce me to EVERY FEMALE there? I was telling him No of course not just the ones that you consider friends. He then says that those people don't matter to him they are just there. THen he says he considers them a friend even if it's not a close friend because he knows them.

SO much babble talk from this guy I swear.

I realize that he is still in the fog right now. I just need to accept the fact that this is the way it is right now because he really could have left me up the creek if he had divorced me.

He did say to go ahead and he will go into counseling because I really need it. Well, at least that is something since before he absolutely did not want to go.

I know I shouldn't put up with this disrespect of me, but why rock the boat when I realize he isn't going to change at all. His Taker is in charge right now. I realize that.Maybe if I wait it out and not continue to nag him about it he will realize my point of view.

Maybe a new counselor can get through to him. My current one doesn't like him in my opinion and maybe a male one can connect better with him.

He came back to me, after months of saying he wanted a divorce. I should be grateful for that, right? That he didn't leave me after all. That me and my kids aren't kicked to the curb. That he comes home to me every night.

I know it won't be like this forever.

I am just sad and upset that I feel like my feelings don't matter anymore.

He has said that he only came back because he got tired of hearing me say I won't give him a divorce, even though he knows full well that he could have gotten one without my consent.

I am just sad that it is like this but at least he is still in my life and didn't leave me.

I made an appointment for m/c today. It is going to be on the first. When I texted him about it he texted back saying damn do I really have to go? I texted back saying it would mean the world to me if you go. It is your choice but it is important to me. He didn't respond back or said anything about it since.

He told me in our last fight that he would go.Please keep your fingers crossed that he does. I requested a male in the hopes that they can relate to each other better.

Keep me in your prayers thanks.