Dear all,

I've been here for a while and I'm now facing a difficult time that my wife does. I found her having affair from February. After that, she changed the lock of our door on the begining of April. I had no places to stay and worst part was that when I went to our joint account, there was only 1 dollar left. I had my cousin to ask her if she wants to divorce and she said that she have had divorce paper and attorney already on June 6th.

However, two weeks past, I asked her friend why she doesn't respond(Because she changed her phone number)for going for divorce procedure. It's been over a month now, and I had my friend to talk to her cuz she is not willing to come out to talk to me;however, she told my friend is all my faults and lying about she told me how to contact her already. My friend asked her if she wants to divorce, why not do it.
She just remain silent for the question and finally gave my friend her email address.

I've been seen psychologist for my severe problems of having nightmares, depressed emotion..etc. Could anyone of
you be kind to tell me what to do now or what she might plan to do.

Thanks a lot

Justin

Justin - How long have you been married? Do you have any children with this woman? If you have proof of the affair, you need to tell friends and family.

Also how was the marriage BEFORE the affair?

Dear Believer,

I really appreciate your responds. We have been married for more than three years and she was preganent on March. Also, she wanted me to help her to have abortion, but I told her that I couldn't help her to kill a live especially my baby.
She told me if I don't help her, she will do it by herself.
As a result, I think she has already done the abortion after she locked me out on April.

As for telling her family, she lied to everyone that I'm a ganster, so they don't pick up my calls neither return the phone calls.

Before affair, marriage was fine. She and I were at her hometown'' Paris,'' and I saw a guy's pictures in her cell phone which is the one she is having affair with last December. I could tell the differences by the way she talks and acts; however, I still trusted her.

I'm terrified with nightmares and depressions. I'm scared that she might do something to me after since she doesn't want to see me, so we have to communicate to talk through our friends.

Please let me know your valuable suggestions, thank you.


Justin

You can get anti-depressants from your doctor to help the feelings and nightmares. That will help you act in your own best interests.

I agree with you in not getting an abortion, but if she has acted on her own, you can't change it.

Affairs always end, so you can just wait, while trying to be pleasant to her when you have contact.

But you sound like a really nice guy, and I'm wondering if you shouldn't divorce her and find someone who appreciates you.