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and i know i said i was not going to delete any posts this time, but i am deleting a few that i find to be exceptionally whiney.
i just don't even want to look at them anymore. i can't believe myself.
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mlhb, Sounds like you have a great therapist and she's really helped to bring you back to yourself. We're all responsible for our own happiness and, at the same time, breaking up, or stepping back (if that's what's happening) hurts. Our knee jerk reaction is to blame someone for the pain ~ it's either them or us. Like you, I tend to blame myself and wonder what's wrong with me despite all the therapy, Al-Anon, MB, etc. With all the history we have, it's a wonder you can regroup so quickly. I'd say this is all part of the healing process and you're doing great!
Hi K, Nice to "see" you!
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What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has Magic, Power, and Genius in it. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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thank you.
yes, i have had many knee jerk reactions in the past several weeks. i wish i had gone back to therapy sooner. better late than never.
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Lol. Dramamine works for me too but so does benadryl and I have less of a "hangover" afterward. But even though I took a good dosage, I still stared at the ceiling for hours. Then I finally fell asleep, and got up late for work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I wish I knew what was going on in G's mind. It seems like such a turn around for him and he's yet to be back on here in some time right? I just don't get how the ex is controlling all this with the kids. It doesn't sound kosher. I don't think the whole story is out there. What do you think?
Anyhoo, I agree let's set a date for a meeting! Time is rolling by fast ,for me anyway.
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AB, if you ever want to IM my yahoo IM ID is mboyea2 Cool. Since mine has my first name in it, I'll reserve it for when I IM you sometime. Are you on any particular times?
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i'm on right now til about 9pm... lol
give me an IM
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K <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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AB,
he only has one child and his ex doesn't really "control" anything at all. they have an agreement they follow, she just, at times, makes things very difficult for him and tries to control what he does when he has dd, and who he has around her, etc.. which is RIDICULOUS because he does nothing wrong when he has the child.
my understanding is that his computer at home is not working and he is rarely on it at work. i think he reads here sometimes but has not posted. i have been posting and he may feel he can't post since i am. he may feel he will get attacked or something, i dunno. i sure hope he doesn't feel like people here would think he is a bad guy or anything because he is far from it. but i just don't think you will see him post right now. plus, i don't think he has much access or time.
i have a lot more understanding since my therapy appt today too. a lot more. it all finally clicks.
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Great breakthrough mlhb <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Love those light bulb moments! Don't let gekko off the hook there too easily. He bears responsibility for HIS words and actions. Hopefully he'll have his light bulb moment too..... Get that book yet? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> [threadjack]Hi Karona!!! What's new w/ you?[/threadjack]
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mlhb..I will be in your beautiful area labor day weekend..what is interesting to see up there..things that the locals know about rather than touristy stuff
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if you keep you face to the sunshine; you will never see the shadows Helen Keller
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as i stated earlier, i want to keep this my happy thread.
i have told gekko i will not post about him here anymore and i am going to respect that.
so lets just keep this thread about my ongoing weightloss and happy happy things.
everything else i will address in therapy where it is private.
thank you
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Sounds like you've had an incredibly stressful time lately. I'm so sorry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I just wanted to say it's fine for your therapist to tell you "no more" this/that stuff, and you seem quite convicted that you totally "heard" what was said today and agreed with it. But, (you knew that was coming, right?!?), it still hurts...and when we hurt, we need to deal with it, then move on. I agree, that pity parties aren't good in general...but you do need to grieve the relationship---however it ended. Simply being "told" that you haven't been listening, won't heal the hurt. Does this make sense? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> I'm so glad you have a great person that tells you like it is...I just want you to realize it's okay to be upset. And from this, you learn. It's not comfortable. But like someone else said, one day you'll look back on this LEARNING experience, and smile with memories of the good, and perhaps cringe with thoughts of the bad. Take good care of yourself...unfortunately I think a lot of us MBers relate to the sucky way you feel. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> UpandRunning
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