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I dont come around too often at all......but I had some free time at lunch today and dropped in to see how folks are doing. Im STUNNED at all the repeat offender threads!!!! Its like every other one is "I found out again"......"its the 2nd time"......"a third affair". Not to be rough, but does MB really work? Has there been any success with people still in here? I found this site after my divorce, and Im not sure MB would have worked in my prior marriage. She was a repeat offender......the alarming number of repeat offender threads leads me to believe it wouldnt have. Anyone have thoughts on this??? Im confizzled!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Wow, I am astonished to hear you say that, because I hadn't noticed any such thing. I am still here along with lots of other folks whose marriages are happily recovered.
Do you mean you see several NEW posters with serial cheaters or do you mean old posters who spouses have cheated again?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm curious...have you done a comparison of how many of these 'repeat offender' marriages had their initial recovery under the MB principles vs. how many were 'recovered' via some other methodology?
I'd bet that a majority of the repeats didn't do their initial recovery using/applying MB principles.
Now, I don't think that ANY system is perfect. MB can do a lot, but it all boils down to the couples/individuals involved. I do feel that in many cases that "wayward mindset" already exists in the WS...and if they don't APPLY the principles and truly make changes, there will always remain a risk of another affair.
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I think the MB principles some of the best tools available to insure your M against an affair, to recover a marriage dealing with infidelity and to save a marriage in the throes of infidelity. It gets my vote hands down!
However, I will say that there those cases wherey if the "wayward" in the relationship does not get help for "bigger" problems, personal problems, then even MB may not be able to help the R. Huge self esteem issues, poor character, childhood issues, personality disorders (BPD, Nacrcissim, etc.). In these cases the personal level issues have to be dealt with first.
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MB seems to be the best out there....
but it is still a crapshoot in a lot of ways. There are a lot of failures even for people that follow the system...but bottom line is, you take your best shot if staying married is your goal. MB might be that best shot for many couples...and some will fail and we will never hear from them again...some remain in limbo for what seems to be an eternity and the lucky ones...those that have a WS that was also willing to put in the work have for the most part, healthy recovered marriages. Bottom line is, no matter how good the plan is, without the WS being willing to put in the work, failure is inevitable....at least as far as marriage recovery is concerned...personal recovery is another story.
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