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Hello, I just called my lawyer adn the para said that she would be faxing some questions over from POWS' lawyer...
I was wondering if you had any tips for me...could explain why this is being done, etc...
I suddendly got nervous about this and was wondering if you could help!
Thank you in advance!
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Calm down Rin. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> More than likely these are interrogatories, which are questions that you will answer under oath. However, your attorney may OBJECT to some of the questions as not relevant, burdensome, fishing expedition, etc. Your attorney needs the FACTUAL answers from you, leave the legal stuff to him. Just tell the truth and answer ONLY what's asked. And if asked to produce something you don't have, then you don't have it. No need to try and invent something. Example: Like if they ask you for all your phone records for the past 3 months and you've thrown them away, then you just say you don't have them. (Just don't throw them away after you read the question and say you don't have them. That's a no-no!) OTOH, your attorney has the same opportunity to send the same kinds of questions to your H (that's why they call it discovery). It could also be what we used to call in Texas -- an "Inventory and Appraisement or I&A" where you list all financial matters -- assets, liabilities, property owned, etc. Again, your attorney would also request this from your H. The reason they do this is to figure out their position before trial or for settlement purposes. Just be truthful and let your attorneys sweat the details. You'll be okay. You've most definitely got the upperhand in this situation. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Okay, thank you...that's what she called it: interrogatories...
I figured the best way to handle it would be to keep it simple and don't offer any additional info...
This is probably the custody part...since we are waiting on a date for the custody hearing...five months and still at square one...it's okay, give POWS plenty time to screw up...
Anyway, thank you for your help...I'm still nervous but that's because this is all new to me and dealing with POWS, and his lawyer just make me nervous...I know how he can turn things around...
I just have to remember that the truth will prevail...
LMAO..practice what I preach huh?
So, for custody I will have to sit on the stand and answer these questions?
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So, for custody I will have to sit on the stand and answer these questions? Not necessarily. I said you answer them under oath which means you swear to the answers in front of a notary (or however they do it in Louisiana). However, if there is a TRIAL, they can use your answers to impeach you. That's why it's so important that you're truthful. As for your nervousness... just picture all those attorneys sitting around working in their underwear.
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And if you don't know the answer to a question, just say, "I don't know." Sometimes they ask questions in a very confusing way (on purpose!). That's when you ask your attorney for help. They may just choose not to answer saying the question is too convoluted. Don't strain your brain in other words.
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Thank you again...I'm just nervous b/c I know that POWs turns everything around... And the horrible stuff that he has said about me to his Lawyer is unreal...of course, he did confess to 90% of everything I said as being true... I tell you what for my peace of mind, I'm going to calm down, and wait for the questions to be faxed instead of working myself up for no reason... I can do this... LMAO...see me talking to myself here...it helps...LMAO It's not as hard as I'm making it out ot be...it will be fine! Thank you again! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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You'll be fine. Your attorneys aren't going to let you say anything the wrong way. That's their job (not to say anything the wrong way, but to not let you say anything the wrong way... oh nevermind... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />)
You're welcome. Let me know if you get stumped anywhere.
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Oh, to protect me from being riped to shreds...LMAO
LMAO...I will!
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Rin - remember what you said to me yesterday?
Truth will prevail.
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LMAo... do you read the earlier post about practicing what I preach! LMAO
I remember!
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