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Saving a marriage with lies. *DELETED*
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Re: Saving a marriage with lies.
Lost89801 #1915432 07/28/07 06:30 PM
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BrokenRenegade,
I am so sorry for the circumstances that brought you here. How sad it is to learn of your H's lies and feeling of entitlement. No one can tell you whether the marriage is worth saving but you. But it's obvious that you both need to read up on all of the information contained on this website. Read up about Lovebusters. Read about Emotional Needs. Read about the POJA (policy of joint agreement). The only thing that is going to save your marriage is open communication on both parts. He must face the reasons why he chose to pursue this sex-dating website and take action so that is doesn't happen again.

I would certainly recommend counseling for both of you. Sounds like you might need it both together and individually. Take care and know that you are not alone.

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Me: 44
FWH: 51
Married: 15 years (second for both)
Children:
Mine: 25, 22, 21
His: 26, 20
D-Day: 3/13/06
Healing: Ongoing

May the grace of God comfort you and heal your pain.
Re: Saving a marriage with lies.
soulsurvivor #1915433 08/01/07 09:18 AM
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Broken,

Could you provide the folks here with a bit more information, like do you have any children?

You already know that you can't force someone with an addiction to get help. And that is what your WH has going, an addiction.

So yes, your marriage can be saved, but not by you alone, your WH needs to deal with his addiction before you two can really effectively began to build a better marriage.

IMHO, if he doesn't recognize that he has a problem and take steps to deal with it, you are going to spend your life dealing with this over and over. Not a very bright future, do ya think?

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I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03

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