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Help me understand. Do we start spending 15 hours together during Plan A? Or do we wait until he is done with withdrawal? If we are, how do I get him to spend more time with me? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />
Right now I can barely get him to spend 2 hours with me watching a movie. He doesn't really want to spend time with me. He tells me that my asking where he's been & what he's doing is pushing him away because I'm being so nosy & snooping. I can tell he's very unhappy & it makes me want to tell him to leave & go to the OW (who is now single).
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Plan A is for the WH when he doesn't know whether to choose his spouse or lover. seems like you need to do Plan A now. Not after the withdrawals. Plan A means you cater to him, so if you asking questions upset him then stop doing it (i know, its hard but try). Do for him, all for him, only to make him happy even though he is not making you happy and when you have had enough then Leave (plan B) but it may not be a plan, you may just be sick of him.
BS (Me) 27
WH 26
M 03/2005
D-Day 06/20/2007
2 DS: 2.5 years and 1 year old
Plan A 8/04/2007
Plan B 10/06/2007
NC 10/12/2007
On the road to recovery 11/06/2007
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