Post deleted by valentinespice

Here's the funny thing about sex in a long-term, permenant relationship: It usually becomes less intense, at least for a while.

First off, you two have been together less than a year. Somewhere near the end of the first year or two, the effect of ther phermones wears off. You each become desensitized to the other's phermones. So, pure, physical lust dwindles. Lust is very misleading because all those hormones are screaming "I must have him NOW" and that crowds out all other issues, emotions or thoughts. Lust is a big part of the infatuation stage.

But, sex is much more complicated when married, and the reason it changes is more complex than a dwindling of pure lust.

When you are married, you become very vulnerable to each other. It's scary. There are lots of insecurities about rejection. What if I can't satisfy her? What if he thinks I'm kinky and weird for wanting this? What if she sees inside my soul? What if I lose control?

Read all the articles on sex and sexual adversion on the main site. You can't force your husband to french kiss you or look you in the eyes. But you can say no to certain positions that you aren't enthusiastic about.