I've been posting over on the "In Recovery" section of MB. I wanted to share something in this forum that might help those in need. I am a recovering cheater and almost divorced my wife of 25 years to be with another woman. I know, not pretty. When you're in the throws of an affair, you don't think straight at all and divorce doesn't seem all that bad. You lose sight of how horrible it can be because your focus is totally on the other woman. The addiction of the affair overpowers any rational thought. So, one Saturday afternoon when I was deciding on staying with my wife or going with OW, I went looking for answers and found the item below. It helped me, and I hope it can do the same for someone else out there.

Click on this site: FlameOut Site. When you get to site, click on [color:"blue"]Letter to a Father[/color]. It is an audio file from a broadcast from Focus on the Family. It is a letter someone read that a daughter wrote to her father after he left the family for another woman. After I listened to this, I created an audio CD for the other woman releasing her to go with her new guy where I talked to her (into the mic) and told her what she meant to me, and that we had to stop seeing each other. I also included this audio broadcast on the CD I gave her so she would hopefully understand the impact of me leaving the family would be. She never did and things actually got much worse after that, but I never left my wife and kids. My wonderful wife and I are now rebuilding our relationship. This is an mp3 file and is only 2 min 20 sec long, but very powerful.