Wow, things are going well for me and BF. Fortunately, we both are cautious from past experience but it's still scary. I'm just going to ramble a little to clear my head.
I tell BF that he messed up all my plans. I had hoped to casually date different people for a couple of years before even thinking in terms of a relationship, but he came along.
Just a few weeks ago a waitress in a diner asked us when we were getting married because "we look so happy together". Luckily I didn't have anything in my mouth or I would have choked. We later talked. While we both agree that something like that is far in the future, we are talking in terms of a future.
We talk! Both of us are very quiet, but we communicate well. We both have been very open and honest, and don't feel the need to entertain each other. We avoid problems by talking about things as they pop up rather than avoiding the issue.
Our personalities are very similiar which I find new and refreshing. I've always dated "A" type personalities which are almost my opposite. It is so nice to be around someone that understands me.
BF, like me, is a giver. We sometimes have to remind each other to take time to enjoy a gift rather than giving all the time. I'm finding out how wonderful it is to be spoiled.
I probably shouldn't be having SF but darn if it isn't fun. Not only does he understand foreplay but enjoys postplay as well. Not to mention the fact that he's into endurance sports.
I've bought a bicycle so that I can sometimes ride beside BF when he runs. This will allow us more time together since he has to do his training and it's about a 40 min drive between us.
I have been having to spend a lot of time lately cheering up BF. He's currently unemployed. He's trying hard and not spunging off me. Still, I hope he finds something soon because this has triggered some old feelings with me. (I supported XWH emotionally and financially for 10 years.) Also, like me, BF has a tendancy to get depressed when stressed.
Because of his job situation, BF has had to make some decisions lately like changing apartments. He has asked my opinion and included me in those decisions. One option was to move in with a female friend for a short time. I think he was honestly thinking from a practical, not emotional, standpoint and didn't consider the fact that his friend is a woman. He eliminated that option when I told him I didn't like it and it was a trigger for me. (My XWH is now married to an old family friend.) We agreed that it is too early for us to move in together.
His XW agreed and told him that he better not do anything to hurt his relationship with me. Yes, it's weird. He is friendly with his XW (42) and her husband (28) and his XW likes me. She trusts me with and sees me as a good influence on their DD (13) because my DD has turned out so well. I don't think he would ever consider getting back with her, but I do think he allows her to confide in him too much.
We both say ILY all the time. I first said it. That was after he said he was falling for me and I told him that those words meant a lot to me and that I would say them when I was sure. I made him wait and could tell that he was relieved when I finally said them.
His DD of course is the center of his life which I have no problem with. He understands when I put my DD first.
So there are a few things that I need to watch but I've never felt so in tune with another person. I'm scared to death but one of my friends just told me that I'm the happiest she has ever seen me.
