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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Update:
I just received a call from OMW -- WE WILL BE MEETING today at a public location to compare notes and gameplan an end to the A!!!
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Update:
I just received a call from OMW -- WE WILL BE MEETING today at a public location to compare notes and gameplan an end to the A!!! AWESOME NEWS! Should I expect an aftershock from the nuclear explosion of exposure? (please tell me yes!) Exposure will really help stop the A. Don't let OMW tell you it's not a good idea. DO IT and DO TODAY! As for WW and OM in the hotel room and not having sex, she is FOS. Good luck and keep us posted. LC
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OMW exhibited the reaction I expected!
Ticked off!
I can tell she wants to confront my WW 1-on-1 at some point to handle this (as she says) woman to woman!
She also gave me insight on the story OM is 'spinning' to her on the A!
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Update:
I just received a call from OMW -- WE WILL BE MEETING today at a public location to compare notes and gameplan an end to the A!!! uh oh. Don't go alone. It could be a set up by the OM.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Please be sure it's her, not her imposter.Did you get her home phone Number? Maybe you should call back to confirm?
Marriages don't fail, people do.
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Yes, did you get her phone #? Can you do a reverse look up to make sure it is her #?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I already gathered info previously on what OMW drives! I also know from 'Motel experience' what OM drives as well.
I will get to the scene early and scope out OMW when she arrives. She will not know what I will be driving!
I'll make sure that she is alone and not with someone or being followed by OM.
This person sounds much different than the 'imposter' that OM put up to calling me the first time!
I will be sure to check her ID when we meet.
If I find anything suspicious, I will simply sit casually at Starbucks and have me a frap!
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Bluenote, the concern here is how far will these 2 go to take this A further underground? She may give you access to her phone and email, only to have an "affair" phone hidden in her car that she recharges under the couch in am obscure outlet.Or she could get an extra sim card that she tapes inside her phone cover. She could get a dedicated "affair" email acct.
Nothing worse than a busted wayward
Marriages don't fail, people do.
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Hey, checking her ID is good...real good! Look at the pic real close, ask for a second one in case she borrowed the license.
Marriages don't fail, people do.
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GF -- good idea on 2 IDs!
Also given I am filing for a D, my WW will soon know that the clock is ticking and the door to our M will be slowly closing for good unless she snaps out of her funk!
So, if she wants to continue to go underground, she has only a short time to do so before she hits the streets "free to go"!
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My best friend was once married to a serial cheater. She once followed him to a hotel and got the desk clerk to tell her what room they were in. She rented the room next door and even saw him come out of the room...and still he denied he was in there. And then he admitted he was there, but denied there was any sex. Your story reminded me of that.
Truly crazy behavior.
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Also given I am filing for a D, my WW will soon know that the clock is ticking and the door to our M will be slowly closing for good unless she snaps out of her funk! Divorce takes a long time, BN, so I would plan on moving forward and IF she makes a demonstrable change in that time, you could always reconsider. But with a legal seperation agreeement in place, you would be protected financially and the kids would be protected. But I would have your atty do what it takes to get her out of there so you don't have to be a party to this abuse anymore. Additionally, I would set up visitation at some neutral party's home, such as one of your parents home. But I would not allow her to take the kids overnight or anything unless and until she has her own place. After all this is in place and she is out of there, you could go into Plan B.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Now,
I really need to be real careful and think of questions to ask the 'alleged' OMW to ensure she is who she is!
I do know the answers to all except home phone, her age, her b-day.
Her home phone:
Her full name:
Her age:
His age:
How long been married:
Where her husband teach:
What subject he teach:
What is your address:
Where did they move out here from:
Her H B-day:
Her B-Day:
Her H cell 1st and 2nd cell#:
Age difference between between OM and OMW:
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Ask her about the guard house convo, about why she wouldn't see you.
Marriages don't fail, people do.
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GF --
Absolutely!
I definitely want to know why now and not then?
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Might be a good idea to tape record the conversation/meeting with the OMW if you can.
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Update:
I met with OMW in person yesterday for 90 minutes (the time flew by). I had to leave to get kids dinner (WW was home with kids lying down during my absence).
My WW was calling me most of the time wondering where I was!
She may feel this is the calm before the storm!
Today OMW and I will meet again to finally review pictures as I have not seen OM and OMW has not seen WW.
We will also devise a plan for all four of us to meet this week to give the A more exposure (Let OM tell my WW his plans for 'their future' in front of OMW).
OMW appears to be a strong woman! Opposite of what I expected!
It was a refreshing meeting -- I could have sat with OMW for 2-3 hrs talking!!!
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D final - Dec 08
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Did you verify that it was her?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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NICE!!!
I LOVE the idea of the four way meeting...don't tell the waywards what you're up to, just take them along and meet in a public place.
Just remember...you and OMW are running the show...NOT the waywards!
GREAT JOB BLUE!!!!!
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