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Bravo, Bluenote!! Well done! Well, do tell, what spin did OM give his BS on the affair? And I gotta say, I'd let WW
think whatever she wanted on where I had been, let her walk a mile in your shoes.


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I did verify it was OMW!

OMW says OM WILL NOT leave her for my WW!

Both OM and WW says no SF occurred (yeah right!).

OMW will be contacting me today to disclose info on OMs confession last night to her!

OM also told OMW some lies that my WW 'painted about me'!

For instance, my WW told OM that I had committed domestic violence against her! I was dumbfounded!

I truly believe my WW thinks OM will leave his wife to prepare a place for them! I also think that my WW wants out of this M.

My real question is also WHEN will be the next time this occurs? I don't know if I could live with this question in mind!

This Friday will give a new meaning to D-day!


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Why are you waiting until Friday?

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We could perhaps bump it up sooner!

We just need time to mesh ALL of our schedules and I need to plan logistics for watching kids!

OMW and I will discuss this morning.


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Oh, man I would like to be a fly on the wall for this meeting.

I would ask OMW to put OM on the spot right there and then as to what his intentions are regarding her and his family. Does he want a D to go and live w/ your WW, yes or no? At that time you drop the bomb that WW will be free as a bird so it will be easy to act on should he want to since I (being you) have seen my attorney and the paperwork is being readied.

This will be a double whammy, jammy....I bet OM is non committal to your WW showing her that he was using her and two show WW that you are serious about moving on without her should she "not get it soon".

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Great job Bluenote! How does it feel to be in control? Don't let it go.

It will be interesting to see if all parties decide to show for the meeting. My DH wanted to have all 4 of us meet right after d-day. FOM refused, said he didn't want to involve his W. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> My DH was mad and called him a coward from that point forward, big difference for you is you are dealing with OMW.

Is she exposing on their end? Did she say why she wouldn't let you in the neighborhood when the guard called her?

I agree, don't wait until Fri to do whatever it is you are going to do. Do it ASAP.

Good luck and keep us posted.

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HAP - that's exactly what OMW and I will ask OM (his intentions with his M and my WW).

I also agree with you that OM will not commit to my WW when she is free to go!

In fact, OMW said that OM already told her he was not leaving her!

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LC -- the meeting will be a SURPRISE! I and OMW will meet with our spouses at a pre-determined location at a set time!

OMW did not initially let me in her neighborhood because she thought I was a creditor/bill collector.

Also OM had the only key to the mailbox and he wanted that to stay in his possession. OM also later told guard (by OMW admission to me) NOT to let me into their complex!

Well, OMW now has the mailbox key, cancelled credit cards, running the show on her end! OM is now the one whimpering.

I am also going to share some 'snoop tools' with OMW to follow up on OM.

Update to follow...

Thanks again MB crew for your support and encouragement.

No matter what happens from here on out with my M, this whole ordeal allowed me an opportunity to share and receive from you all!


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Bluenote,

What did we tell you about telling OMW? Do you now see how critical it was to take that step? You could have avoided a month and a half of suffering. Keep up the heat.


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bump....did you meet with WW, OM, and OMW yet?

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Lexxxy,

That 'party' is scheduled for tonight!

I even went to scope out the place, and made a particular reservation for a certain 'high back' booth in the corner to prevent anyone from 'escaping.'

Its amazing, OMW and I have been communicating everyday since last Sat to exchange information.

My WW is still in denial and sticking by her lies -- about where they met, SF engagement, where they stayed, etc...

Both OMW and I have worked as a good team to uncover the truth and her WH / my WW will be BUSTED tonight if all goes well!

The first time I tried to contact OMW, OM intercepted my certified mail and HAD HIS COUSIN act as OMW to try to get me to reveal my intentions! The real OMW helped me uncover this truth!

My WW cannot even realize the length OM is going to to prevent me from speaking with OMW. OM has lied to my WW
at least a couple of times to make himself look good!

Hopefully tonight will be the encounter my WW needs to WAKE UP!!!

Anyway, WW is walking around the house like all is cool -- she will be served her "free to go' papers tomorrow!

My gut tells me that my WW is waiting for OM to bail out of his M so she can then bail out and they can live 'miserably ever after!'

OMW says OM exclaimed he is NOT going anywhere! He will announce this tonight to my WW.


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You're doing great Bluenote!

Keep a cool head about you tonight...calm, in control.

We'll be routing for you.


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Ahhh! The stuff dreams are made of..a face to face with the little girly man Mr. No-nutz.

Go Big Blue, Go Big Blue!!!! And for the girly-man- <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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Mini tape recorder ? If nothing else in case something/anything goes south you'll have the means to clarify/refute because you never know... something later could be said or interpreted to have happened. Especially if you plan to go thru with the divorce - you don't want this event to be interpreted ot presented as threatening/abuse/etc...

Be careful and best of luck !


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Also - remember - this guy is a liar and can't be trusted. What he has told his wife I wouldn't bank too much on - he is caught and will say anything. Keep your guard up.


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Great idea. You also want it for WW, cause they have their own dictionary.

OM "I'm not leaving my W"
WW "He's just saying that cause she's sitting there"

She may need it for a memory refresher.


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Good idea on the tape recorder!

I will get that ready!

With as much snooping as I have performed, I feel like I can start my own private investigation firm after this whole matter is over!

If all goes well tonight, I will make a silent toast to the MB team <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> !


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Great Job!

It will be interesting to hear how things turn out and your WW's reaction to her papers tomorrow. I'm wondering how you are going to be able to keep them both from running for the nearest exit.

Are you planning on arriving first? If so, WW will be stuck and if OM runs I hope his W still sits for a chat. Same for you, if you arrive after they do and your WW won't sit, you should be sure to sit and chat with them even if WW bails. It will be interesting to watch him squirm. Do your best to remain calm and in control.

I would love to be a bug on the wall for this meeting.

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Bluenote...

You're well on your way to MB hero-hood!!!

This is something that tons of people have DREAMED of orchestrating!!! Seriously...WTG man!

You MUST give an account tomorrow on what happens!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Never posted to you before but have lurked and cheered you on quietly. The advice you have been getting has been great. BTW-Just wanted to second Owl's statements.

I really like how you have set up the chess pieces just right for the checkmate. Great job- no matter how it turns. You are still your kids' hero - the most important thing.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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RWinger and all,

Thanks for the well-wishes!!!

OMW is chompin' at the bit to get to my WW! She is ready to go!


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