Welcome to the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
I guess the only "angel" left is to be Bosley. I guess I can play the frumpy old man <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Or can I be Charlie... the voice on the phone. No wait I think that voice belongs to CJ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. Where has CJ been anyway?
It would be a great idea about the readings from Beattie's book. It would also help others who are just beginning this battle.
Rin you are doing a great job... keep it up. Good things are on the horizen.
Still
BW me 46 WH 46 Together 28 years married 23 3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14 DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW WH left job 4/02 MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up) Separated 7/04 to 10/04 Retrouvaille 9/04 Red Flags 11/05 DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss. Moved out (him) weekend after labor day 23rd anniversary 10/7/07 Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
Still- I think Mimi is Charlie, if I remember correctly! So Bosley's still open...LMAO
SD-I REALLY appreicate the book idea, b/c yesterday afternoon, I hada little down period. I was feelinga little guilty b/c I filed for D. So, I read a little and had to remember that the guilty is not mine...
I was trying to trust an untrustworthy person, who repeated hurt me time and time again and that things were becoming more abusive, the more that I fought for my M.
BUGS!! I have to be there for 8:30 tomorrow morning, so the countdown is 25 hours to go! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Sadmo- Thank you so much for your prayers, as well as everyone else's...L asked this morning if it was time to move back into our house...F is worried about how mad his dad is going to be tomorrow...
I told him that if he was that uncomfortable that he didn't have to go and he could tell his dad that...he asked if I was crazy and said that he couldn't tell his dad that he didn't want to go...so I left it at that!
I tell you guys, it has been a REALLY BUSY week and I know that it's a good thing b/c it gives me less time to think about court and the whole process...
Last night was suppose to be our night off from having to go anywhere and I ended up helping F with his homework until 9:30...Then, I have some calls to make, and it was 11 before I got into bed...
Today, I have my meeting with my Lawyer at 3, then, I have two meeting tonight, one of which is a board meeting...then I have some more calls to make to let my mom know what's going on and what the lawyer thinks will happen tomorrow as well as some friends...
I have Sponsor and another friend going with me tomorrow for support, then we'll probably do lunch, and then, tomorrow night I'm going eat sushi with another friend of mine...
So, I've got enough things to do to keep my mind from wondering in directions that it doesn't need to! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I hope all of you have a wonderful day and THANK YOU FOR ALL OF THE SUPPORT!!!!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge. Thomas Carlyle
Thinking of you, glad you have a busy day to keep you occupied!
Not too long and you'll have some certainty -- that will be nice. Maybe you could mention to STBX that the boys are worried that he'd be angry tomorow. Maybe even have the lawyers pass the message through each other if you need to. That way he might not be short with them, even if it's just to prove YOU wrong. If you think he really will be likely to take out any anger on them, then you might even have the lawyers work out a switch to the schedule, trade weekends or something so he has time to cool off. Then again, maybe the schedule will get adjusted enough that the kids don't end up having to go with him on Friday, anyway.
The kids seem to be pretty involved in a lot of the details -- seems like lots of what-ifs for them to deal with (if you get the house, then dad said he'll live in a trailer, if you don't get the house, if dad gets 50/50 custody .... etc.). How are they doing with all that uncertainty? It's stressful for ME to think about, and I don't have to live it day to day, I bet it's much harder on you all.
Hang in there, one more day! You've really done a great job getting through all of this.
Hi, guys, it's been a really rough day...I just walked in the door...
here's the deal...so far I have custody...CS is determined...
Problem we are having to deal with is: use of the house and spousal support, and there was another issue but I can't remember what it was, I was SOOOO upset...
My lawyer is confusing and I really don't like him...I'm going to have a talk with him in the morning....
I think that he was trying to convince me to give in on the house...wanting me to look at the bigger picture, saying that it's just a house not a home...that the boy's will be asking once we move into the house when's dad moving back in...then it will turn to blaming me in the long run...
One: he doesn't know my KIDS...
So, I have to deal with him tomorrow morning...I'm pissed right now that I think I have things straight in my head...
There is a plan and we are going to play the game...8:30am...I have to be at my lawyer's office at8am...
I have to finish some paperwork...
Both my meeting went well...Oh, come to finds out the last CS I got was fronted my POWS mom! My attorney also told me that she speaks highly of me...I think that she's fronting POWS on this stuff b/c she feels guilty!
Well, If I think of anything else I'll posted it!
I need some rest...can't go looking like a GODDESS if I'm tired...attire's already picked out...and I still have to call my mom and let her know what my attorney had to say...
It's been a LONNGGGGG DAY!!!
Please pray to soften POWS heart...
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge. Thomas Carlyle