100% correct, Mel.

Don't you dare leave your house.

If she wants to leave, fine.

Tell her, go.

The world is out there for you.

Write her a Plan B letter, and tell her not to let the doorknob hit her in the a$$ as she leaves.

The KIDS STAY PUT.

And if I were you, I would stand up in church at the very first opportunity and ask the congregation to HELP you fight this affair, because this ADULTERY is destroying your family.

And by the way, where does she get off talking about YOU lusting in YOUR heart????

WHAT ABOUT THE LUST IN HER OWN HEART?

Did you ask her about that?
Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
SB

HNH

you have received the BEST advice her from Melody Lane....follow it to the letter and what WOF5 says is true so be prepared for that. Are you getting support from your pastor?? OM's pastor??? OM seems not to be honouring his word if your W is still visiting him....what a surprise!!! ...NOT.

You MUST BE THE MAN here HNH....yes it will be tough and unpleasant , but if you get your family back. it will be worth it. Your kids need to understand what is happening and that you are fighting for them, for your family.

Praying for you

oh-kaaaayyy...

So she wants BOTH of you to get another place to live, when it's not your 'turn' with your (own) kids... but you'll be keeping the house right next door to the OM? (supposedly for the purpose of that's where the kids will live and whichever parent is with them for the week?) And she obvoiusly expects you to finance three households while she has all day to 'volunteer' her help at the OM's farm?!?!?
If she wants her own place, she should have to go get a job to pay for it. (maybe OM can start PAYING her for 'helping at his farm'?)

Weirdness man! What she wants is unacceptable!!!
Basically this would allow her to not only continue her adultery BUT it will allow her to do so MORE in front of the kids, and without you there to protect them from the influence of the OM/adultery, AND you are out of your home and away from your kids when YOU didn't do anything wrong.

BTW if she really believes she was entitled to a divorce because of the lust = adultery biblical reference: this maybe entitled her to divorce you immediately after that took place BUT if she resumed marital relations with you afterwards (instead of divorcing you) that no longer applies. And anyway, an entitlement to divorce is never an entitlement to commit adultery (and then later divorce because of her own adultery). She's trying to blame you alone for her adulterous choices.

PLUS she's trying to force you to share the consequences and expenses of her selfish immoral choices. Do NOT move out of your home unless you SELL the house right next door to the OM!!!!! She thinks you're going to finance her yours/mine/ours lifestyle. Dude - you need to make it really clear to her that you and YOUR children are a family, that you and your children will live in your home, and that if she insists on moving out so she can be with OM that's her problem and her expense. I would go get a for sale sign and stick it in the front yard today if I were you. Then go find a home far away from OM and move yourself and your children there. If wife chooses not to move with family she can make her own arrangements minus any assistance from you.