My husband is out of town, scout camping with son- went in his work car- just to ease my mind and found his work jump drive. The hint is pyromaniac. GOT ANY IDEAS????

How about firestarter, firefly, flamer, something related to scouts in starting fires, matches or lighters???

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firebug
defleppard

How about firestarter? Ooops I see 22Devastated guessed that one already...

Is he a Stephen King fan?

Or arsonist, arson...

JinGA

maybe gene simmons

Don't overlook the obvious. Try pyromaniac.

If you have no luck with guessing the password, you might consider trying a free or shareware version of a data recovery software. I am not positive this will allow you to gain access to the files, but I suspect if the files are only password protected but not encrypted, this might work.

There are also softwares created for viewing or cracking passwords. A google search for key words (usb thumb drive lost password etc) should help you out.

-JKT

can u tell us the brand of the usb flash drive...maybe someone with more computer sophistication can recommend a program to her?

How about "fire"?

Hotstuff???

Thanks I have tried all these passwords- none worked. I do not want to download anything for fear I will corrupt his stick- it is for work- he works for the feds and it could cause problems- case files etc.

Anyway- I am torn about trying anylonger- based on his actions, behavior, communication, honesty (as far as I can tell) since his affair I don't really feel there would be anything on it - but then I guess there is a big part of myself that just cant fully trust.

Will he be able to tell I have attempted to crack his password??

It is an adata usb thumb drive.

amartini,

Well, I don't know if this will help or not, but verifying reality, as I call it, IMHO is essential to your recovery. Besides, it never hurts to reassure yourself that things are as they should be.

Unfortunately, some FWH "forget" the depth of the damage once the marriage recovers and if they didn't really "own" the affair and accept the responsibility, then sometimes they repeat the offense.

I hadn't checked my FWH's email messages for months, and when I did, I discovered him getting an email address of a former HS female classmate from another classmate. This was an absolute violation of our agreed boundaries and set us back to the point where we almost split up.

I believe that Dr. Harley says Trust, but verify.

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You could hold on to it until he gets home and ask him to type the password for you.

That will give him the opportunity to prove his sincerity in front of you....hopefully that's the case at least.

I would tell you to listen to your gut. If he's given you no reason to be suspicious, don't get yourself worked up.

I would also suspect if he has Fed/Gov related sensitive data on the thumb drive it is mostlikely encrypted, not just password protected.

-JKT

Thanks- I trust my gut that nothing is going on, I think the snooping is self preservation- fear it will happen again- as he is "one of those that you'd never would have thought would have cheated"

I guess part of my insanity lies with a statement on of his co-workers said at a party one day, she was talking to another lady- walked by me and said once a cheater always a cheater.

We vacationed with the same group, I asked her what she meant by that statement- she said she was talking about a man in the office who had cheated on his first wife and is again on his second. I asked if she meant it for me as well, she asked what I was talking about. It was at this point I told her my FWH cheated on me with an old college girlfriend last Nov. She said she was shocked, did not know anything about it, only we had some problems.

She and his partner (a male- being drug through a divorce and is hating it) have both promised to let me know if he they see him being inappropriate. His partner told me he would beat his asterick if he did it again- who knows-

I guess I am in a spiraling funk right now. I think about all the relationships he's had in the past- and wonder. I know I need to focus on the present and going down that road will not help.

I hate when I get this way. I am ready for the heartache and pain to be gone. Sometimes I wish it had ended without me ever knowing.

He could have suffered silently with his guilt- if he truly has guilt. One can verbalize it - but who knows if they really mean it- right?

Anyway- thanks
I will go with my gut, but keep an eye out.