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How difficult is it to change your name and your child's name? Can you do it during separation or do you have to wait for the divorce? Thank you for the help.
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here in NY my understanding is after divorce although i started signing things hyphenated then just went straight to maiden name. ask your attorney for your state.
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When the judge granted my divorce, she asked if I wanted to go back to my maiden name. I told her no. I think changing your child's name would be hard to explain and frowned upon---he is the father. What would you change your child's last name to?
Good luck.
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BS married 18 years in addition to 8 years dating since HS
'04 discovered his other life w/multiple A's
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2 wonderful girls, 19 and 17
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Does your child want his name changed? Names are really important. Unless your child is extremely young, like under 2, I'd think long and hard about change his or her name. First, it's a bit of an identity challenge for the child. Send, if you were removing his father's surname, it would send a clear message that Daddy was no longer part of his life or him.
Divorced.
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You can request to have your name change when your A files for D. My children have asked to change their name and use my maiden name but I tell them they can't until they are 18 years old.
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In my state, you can change your name back to your maiden name with the divorce. If you wish to use a different last name - one you have never had before - that takes a second court order. Been there, done that. I didn't like my maiden name so I chose a last name I liked.
My children were about 4th and 1st grade when I changed my name. They were mad at me for a while but have gotten over it. It is a pain to have a name different from your child's but it is manageable.
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In my province, I "assumed" my husband's name and did not need to legally change it. You may want to go to your state/province's general website and search for name change information. You may not need to speak with a lawyer about this.
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