I am so frustrated. We halted the emergency custody (per our lawyers advice) and are now just going for full custody. Our next court date is September 20th. We finally got the XOW to respond to one of my WXH's text messages. We were supposed to have OC tonight for our visitation, but again she refused. We haven't seen OC in over 2 weeks. This is rediculous. She said that if we dropped our lawyer that she would let us see OC again. Then when he refused she said that she didn't trust him because we now have a lawyer. Well, duh, we got a lawyer because she refused to follow the visitation that they agreed to. Her excuse was that OC didn't let go of her for 4 hours the last time she came. Which is complete BS, I was sitting there when she got OC out of the van, OC didn't cry or reach for her. She just doesn't want her around me. She then said that she would allow my WXH to meet her somewhere to see OC for an hour on Saturday. He said that our children and I would be with him (he is forbidden from meeting her without me). She threw a fit and refused. She just wanted to get him alone. It is so PATHETIC! I want to scream, "HE CHOSE HIS WIFE, GET OVER IT!" He then asked her if we could meet another day besides Sat, because we already have plans with my family. It wasn't our scheduled time after all...we had plans. She refused to change the day and said that if he wanted to see OC, he would come anyway. He refused to give in to her, which I am very proud of, so she stopped returning his messages. She is impossible! I am so fed up with her games and lies. She is completely irrational and she is wearing my patience thin.

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I don't know where you live, but we even recorded phone calls from the OW. In some states it's not legal to do that....

We kept a log book with "just the facts ma'am" in it. Dates, times, phone conversations, incidences that we knew about. We also pulled ALL the past police reports that were made regarding her residences and submitted it to the case worker assigned to do the home study in both homes (standard operating procedure when deciding custody).

We had lice issues with OC getting lice everytime she went to her mother's. I STILL document that.

We had an incident where all the children were at the OW's mother's house with OW and 4 other adults in the house, and all the children were rushed to the hospital because they'd gotten into a medicine bottle and eaten the pills. No one was watching the children.

Document EVERYTHING you know of. It will only help shine light onto the seriousness of the situation and negates the he said/she said b.s.

My story in my sig line below is a link to what we've gone through. If you need you can pick my brain about it anytime.

Oh. Do you have visitation already established through the courts?

If so, every time, EVERY TIME she doesn't give the child to you all for your visitation, call the police and make an "information report." You have to tell them you want a report, because many police will just tell you that it's a civil issue. Well it IS a civil issue, BUT if you ask for a report, they HAVE to take it. That way it's documented by a 3rd party that she is reniging on the visitation. Judges HATE that.

We do not have visitation set thru the courts. They were trying to decide custody and visitation without going to court, which was working, until she dropped her off for the first time a few weeks ago. Then she decided not to bring her back which caused us to get a lawyer. If she had simply followed the visitation she and my WXH set up, then she would have simply had to sign papers and it would have all been very simple. But of course we can't do that. That would make too much sense! Of course she had no problems when I had to drop all three of my children off to them when my WXH lived with her. It was okay then. I am so sick of her. She is behaving like a child now that the shoe is on the other foot. Guess she doesn't like being me after all. (forgive my evil laugh of justice). I do document everything. I have a notebook I write stuff down in and I get hard copies of their text messages every month. If there is anymore I can do to document stuff, please let me know.

Well, now I am laughing! The OW went and wrote a boo hoo letter to the court and asked for a court appointed attorney. Instead of just appointing one, like they normally do, they set it for trial. We now have to go to court on the 21st to see if she gets a lawyer. My lawyer's assistant (who is also my friend) is getting me a copy of the letter today from OW's file. It is always helpful to have a good friend on the inside of the legal system! Can't wait to read this one....it ought to be good for a laugh. I also got the paturnity test in today. Hopefully the OC will be at the court date and we can somehow get the sample we need. We'll see I guess.