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I know that around March 07 my H rekindled his relationship with the W he left us for. Our relationship since our D in 04 was begining to grow into a strong begining again. Around April he start to become distant again acting funny (attitude wise) I sensed something was wrong.
I asked him if he is dating someone, he evaded the question.
Things progressively got worse. My son heard him talking sweetly on the phone to someone. My H then told me it was none of my son's business who he talks to or dates. We are not married anymore and he has a life now.
I told him if you want to date fine do what ever it takes to make yourself happy. When you are tired of living that kind of life, call me. I still love you very much, I will always love you, but I cannot allow you to come and go in my home and continue your affair. If you choose to stay with her then do so. If you want to come home and work things out I will be here.
Every time we had a discussion about coming back he said no he likes being single. He comes to see us whenever he wants and does whatever he wants. He wants the best of the both worlds.
When I found out about his affair, he would go visit her and then come home to me. He does not want to let go of his security blanket.
I feel I had to make him choose. I love him very much but I feel if he continued with this behavior it will never stop.P.S. I am sure she does not know he was coming to my house 3-4 times a week and on the weekends.I had to put an end to it. I had to make him see what it would be like without me and my son and the home he left.
I will wait patiently for his fog to lift. I have continued with my life and started a career change. I am perusing my life long dream of becoming a nurse.
The darkest years of my life are behind me now (with the exception of my daughter who will always be with me in spirit) I am trying to make a life for my son and myself and I hope someday soon with my husband again.
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Sounds like a good time for a dark Plan B. Read about it.
Me - BW/FWW Him - FWH/BH Still figuring it all out - but we're figuring it out TOGETHER <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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JoCee, did you see my post to you? It would help posters follow your story if you keep to one thread.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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