Hi,
I have taken many of your well placed 2 x 4's and have really tried to just work on myself while my WH continues to live away from home and with the OW.
D-day was 3 months yesterday and I actually did amazingly well. He continues to live with a crack smoking, Hepatitis C woman who has more issues than I could ever think about. I am toying with writing a book and making money on this situation it's just so unbelievable.
WH still has made no attempt to contact our middle son, but has emailed the younger son three times. Though my boys would never tell me as such, I know they want him to come home. Both told my daughter how much they miss him but that they are so angry at him. They want a sincere apology with no excuses. I don't believe WH is capable of understanding the destruction his actions of leaving us has caused and how his actions have impacted the boys' life. Would you agree? Is there anything I can do to help this situation out or still let G-d take care of healing their relationship.
Anyways, here's the situation I am wondering about - I am planning to drive down to CA from WA next week. My youngest son is taking a plane down there but coming back with us. My daughter and her BF are driving both ways with me. My daughter spilled the beans to WH what are plans are and invited him to go.
He actually is considering driving down with us. He has to check with OW (of course), but his selfishness knows no bounds these days and he want to be at that wedding. Can you just picture this conversation to the OW - do you mind if I drive 14 hours with my wife and children to my neice's wedding?
I am still planning to stay in Plan A as actually I continue to get stronger and stronger everyday and I become more committed to saving my marriage. Do you know how many people think I am one stupid person?
So I would like a little reinforcement on what my goal for this time should be while we are in a car for so many hours. Also, what are some things I should be considering and be aware of that I am not looking at?
Thank you for reading this and helping me out with suggestions,
SG
