Mark,



Well said. For Skirmisher and I it was the LB's that were the problem. We were pretty good at meeting the EN's, but lousy at avoiding the LB's so our banks just kept draining away.

Once we started avoiding the LB's, recovery quickly followed.

Who

Who,

I think one of the things we all seem to forget until we have a crisis is that there are day to day things that are what I might refer to as "minor love busters." These are the little things that add up to the "overhead" of the relationship.

My socks are thrown at the hamper; one makes it inside, the other lands beside it.

Because I do most of the real cooking at our house, I get home to "What's for dinner?" Though she has been home for a couple of hours by then.

The lawn needs mowing, the living-room needs painting and I am told on Saturday morning that we are spending the day helping SIL and her H move the new furniture they just bought into place.

I'm tracking a problem for a customer and in the midst of juggling a hundred pieces I get a phone call from DW asking me about the chair she wants to buy and I say"Just take care of it" and she is offended at my shortness and what she takes as lack of concern over what she thinks is important.

Just a typical day in the 1952 household...

But there are other things that happen that can also drain the LB$ and we aren't ever aware that it is happening at all.

DS locks his keys in the car while I am out of town visiting my brother. DW has to drop what she is doing to go help him out since she is about 10 hours closer than I am. While it wasn't me that put a crimp in her day, she tends to blame me because I was not there to take care of it.

Considering that I held three different jobs in my life where I travelled all the time (spent 160 nights in the same Holiday Inn in 1978 and went other places as well) we had many such instances of this scenario. I was making over twice as much money as I make today, but when you travel that much, it takes a toll. That's why I have stayed here for 17 years now.

Mark