How long do you wait for her to come back to you after she has divorced you.
When she just all the sudden goes out and tells you to leave that she just can not be married to you anymore that you just can not help her and give her what she wanted after 8 yrs and 3 children one that you adopted.
When she goes out and runs her credit card up to 20 K in 9 months, when she takes a lone out for a tummy tuck for 7K
When your own children tell you that mom seems a little crazy now.
When you tell the person you still love to get some help that this is not normal.
That you gave her all of yourself and treated her good.
When she tells you that she is going to find a person who loves her and gives her butterflies in her tummy
When she says that she will sail around the world with that immaginary person she is going to find, when a real person is here and waiting for her to come to her right mind.
How long do you pine for her love to come back to you so that you can have your family back and everything that you worked for.
How long do you hold out for that kind of person when her own mother says that you were the better parent and her daughter is crazy.
How long or do you just give up on someone who you love that seemed to go crazy and became a spoiled litttle child with dreams of fairy tale romance and passion for all time with the butterflied and lovey feeling in her heart.
Or do you just go on and look for the next one to break your heart?
Sparks

Here's the short answer: As long as you WANT to....and not one minute longer.

johnathan....stop giving away all your power. You don't have to tolerate any of this stuff.....and you shouldn't. Are you still in contact with her? Where are the children?

Life waits for no one. Why would you?

You do realize that this is the one and only life you have, don't you?



No, you become happy and content within yourself. You may think another person is the answer, but it is not.

Love, the right kind of love, will show up when you have created a loving, healthy environment for yourself and your children.

You don't look for happiness, you create it.

You started a poll a few months ago asking "did your wife ever come back?"

And it's three months later and you are still very, very broken hearted and sad.

The question should be how long do you want to keep being unhappy?

Are you on any kind of anti-depressents?

I can tell you how to get over someone, I did it myself Jonathon, and the only hard part was the decision to do it.

Is that where you are?

Yes on anti depress meds.
I just still do not know why she did what she did.
I was a great man to her everyone but she sees that.
She is liveing in a fatasy world and has effected alot of peoples lives.
I just feel that I can only be happy with my family my children and her.
Even though her mother has been liveing with her for the past two months and asked me how I put up with her daughter at all.
She just traded you for me she tells me.
All my ex tells me is that she can please herself now and why would she need me for anything.
She always seems that she rubs that in my face everytime we talk.
I just put too much time and energy into this person to let her go even though she will not even talk about getting back together.
I am afraid that I will be happy again and never want what we had and I feel that she will be unhappy and regret what she has done.
I just want to keep the door open for my children to have a normal life with two loveing parents which is what we where
She keeps telling everyone that everyone thinks she is a bad mother I just think she is going through something and will not let anyone in.
So to I still try to get her to open up
Or do I just let her self destruct. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

it seems like you are the one self destructing here jonhathon.
it is time to let her go and if she comes back at a later time you can decide if she has become a mother and woman that you would want in your life.
as far as rubbing your face in stuff everytime you talk...well, there's your answer...don't talk.