I wish I had known about this site, it without a doubt would have saved me some heart ache. It's so sad to see how often infidelity happens knowing how painfull it is to everyone involved.
I have been married 9 years and have 2 beautiful kids. FWS (I hope) and I were married early at 19 and 20 due to pregnancy. Not a solid foundation for a relationship to begin with. We are both prior military which is how we met. I have been working overseas for the last 4 years. I am gone frequently and for long periods of time. Our marriage has been good considering the circumstances. After searching and finding the indicators of infidelity on this and other sites, I was suspicious for the first time in 9 years of marriage. After researching cell phone records I decided to fly home to handle the situatuation. I was still in denial. En route I found an e-mail to OP confirming everything. I spent 17 hrs of flight time and 2 days total travel time by myself falling apart in front of foreigners on planes and in terminals. I came home to a woman I did not know. It's amazing how cookie cutter some of the things WS's say and do. Of course she denied everything and I actually elieved her, DUMB [censored]!! My eyes weren't comletely opened until a week later when I found text messages on her phone talking about the sex they had. I wish I would have know about plan A+B, my plans if implimented would have only ended up in prison time. Denial, confusion, anger, depression, anger, anger and more anger is what followed D-Day.
OP was my neighbor, who happens to play for an NFL team. I am not racist but the fact he is black really bothers me. I had a chance to confront him personally before I really knew everything (I was still snooping) and it was sad to see a grown man, and a pro athlete act like a little ******. Damn that feels good to say.
After a few weeks of feeling sorry for myself, I started making moves. I rented out the house we lived in and sold almost everything we owned inside of it not to be spitefull, but I wan;t going to live next door to the devil if I could help it. I had already put my rental property up for sale. WS is not vindictive so she went along with whatever I wanted. Sort of a plan B but I didn;t know it.
Long story short, she did the whole multiple D=day thing, and eventually committed to R. We both see IC an MC and are doing well considering I am overseas again and R started only 2 months ago. I will post more of my story later, too much for one post. I look forward to being a member of this F***** up club. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
