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Does anyone have information on long term affairs? Do they usually end? Do Plan A and B work on lta?
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Your question is too broad. Can you provide more details?
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In the recovery forum there is a continous thread on LTA's. It has been posted to over many years and there are many posts in it. It may not be at the top of the page now since there is some time since last post was written. Go to the recovery forum and make a search for "LTA". Define the search to cover the last month or two.
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I would like to know the same question, My H's A has been on again off again for about 3 years. I was on plan A for about 2 years after so called divorce. (seperation). Still no plan of H coming back. Now I am on plan B..........
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(((LOST)))
Your answer is to TAKE ACTION.
We've had this discussion before...
My H had a LT ROMANTIC AFFAIR..he was "IN LOVE" with her..
PLAN A and PLAN B worked...for US...
One of my MAJOR REGRETS is having ENABLED the A for putting up with it for so long...while he fell deeper and deeper IN LOVE with her...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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The Harley's Plan A/B work on LTAs. Aside from witnessing it here repeatedly over the years, here's why I believe they do.
The WS is accustom to getting their important emotional needs met "for years" by both the BS and the OP. Typically, the BS provides the majority of the need meeting, with the OP providing 1 or 2.
After executing a good Plan A and entering into Plan B, you are removing the lion share of need meeting from the WS that the BS was providing. Which places the onus or burden of all need meeting on the OP. Rarely can they rise to the challenge.
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yes, they work in some cases...and they fail in others. I would say your best bet is to follow the plans and pray that yours is one that it works with. There are as many people on either side of the fence... I say give it a shot and maybe your WS will be one that gets his head out of his butt.
Just watch which EN's you are willing to meet until you are sure that he is disease free. No spouse is worth losing your life to some STD.
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