In January my wife diecided that me discovering her affair was grounds for a divorce on grounds of irreconcilable differences. No-fault if you will.

I was recovering from a gun shot wound I had received the day after Thanksgiving and was still learning how to walk again. She dropped me off on the side of the road in the middle of nowhere and told me find somewhere else to live.
She told me she never loved me and she was merely using me to raise her son, but I did a terrible job of that because he wasn't "redneck" enough. I was a terrible provider becuse I couldn't give her the lifestyle she "deserved".
She said that she had discussed it with OM because he is some sort of deacon at his church and he said it was ok because "god" didn't want her to be unhappy.

Anyways I'm left standing on the side of the road in the middle of winter without my cane or walker.


My older brother was just so happened to be buying a trailer load of hay when he spotted me on the side of the road and picked me up.

She was changing the locks on the house when he brought me to get my bird and my truck.

I had exposed the affair of what seems to be three years to OMW and she promptly beat the holy carp out of him on the phone for me to hear. It wasn't his first offense.

My wife didn't properly file until April, she had the papers drawn up by some hack attorney who she convinced it was going to be an easy $500 no-fault get-it-over with divorce. She thought I was totally defeated and would just cave in and give her everything.

By now I can walk perfectly fine to her surprise and am no longer the quiet pushover she thought I was going to be.

I refused to sign the papers and told her if she wanted rid of me, do it fairly, not her definition of fair or I would bankrupt us both.

She chose the latter.

The judge is far from pleased on the court date and orders her to give me my belongings and half of the tax return she fraudulant took.

I haven't even spoken to her in six months and don't wish to ever speak to or set eyes upon ever again.

My attorney had sent motions to move to her attorney and they have yet to respond. There was a deadline set and they still refuse to answer. My last set of demands was if there was demanding reimbursment of all legal fees and I would grant a no-fault divorce. She had 30 days to respond and 32 days later, nothing.

I'm going to leave it up to the judge now.

I'm tired of waiting and wish to get this nightmare chapter of my life over with. She doesn't want me. OM doesn't want her. Her family is beyond angry with her over this and the only person that is supporting her through this is her enabling friend that is in an affair with one of our deacons at church, which coincidentally asked me not to return as I am getting divorced.


I can understand her not wanting me anymore after she has been caught, but she needs to finish me off and stop my suffering.

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I am soooo sorry that you are going throught this...I understand your pain with the process...

The kids and I left in March, have had two court dates cancelled as a result of things with our Attorneys, now to mention, WH refused the suggestion of the judge, so here we sit waiting on our next court date!

The best that I can do is stay busy b/c it drives me crazy sometimes that here we are six months from the time we left and we haven't been back home...

WH changed the locks on the house the day or the day after we left, told his Attorney that he "feared" for his life! That's ridiulous! So, needless to say, we have not had access to any of our stuff either...

So, i understand your pain and frustration! have hope that IT WILL get BETTER!!!

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Take care and I'm happy to see that you are doing better!

You can get a temporary hearing to force him to give you your property, that's what I did.

A few things were missing from my list, but nothing I couldn't live without.

She had killed all of my finches through neglect, but the judge told us to settle that matter between us.

In other words, don't bother him with it and just get over it.

I'm just so sick of her being able to not play by the rules and I am forced to conform to them.

The judge just doesn't care that her attorney continually ignores the law.

Well, we go to court on the 14th on Sept. I've been without this long, what's a little longer... :shrugging:

I know the kids are tired of it, but we're waiting to move back into the house...

I understnad the sick and tired of walking the straight line and being *u*ked in the long run!

IT WILL GET BETTER, I have to belive that!

Did the judge even grant temporary CS for your children?

My wife tried for temporary alimony, but her spousal abuse nulled that out really quick.

No, not the judge, WH and his lawyer came up with an amount...it's different then what we came up with, but for the time being it's okay...the judge will take care of that...

No spousal support yet either...he has really screwed himself...the last time the kids went over, my OS didn't get his meds, and the YS got twice the dose...before that he brought them fishing with a friend and both of them were drinking on the boat...

Before that, He let the OS go off on the 4 wheeler by himself and YS flipped it, and walked back to the camp...another time, the kids were playing at a neighbors house and their child fell through the wharf and into the bayou, my kids were standing RIGHT there...no supervision once again!

He's been horrible on making the CS payments too! So, it's just not looking good for him...if we can EVER GET TO court, things will work out...it's getting there that's been the problem...but I think that WH's Lawyer sees through WH now...big difference...it seems like his lawyer is getting tired of the lies...

I just have to be patience a little longer...

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Pariah: Best thing I can suggest is to insist that your lawyer set a court date. It took me 15 months after filing before mine was settled. That's after trying to save the marriage for 6 months. In my case, WH wanted me out of his life but wouldn't finalize the D. I suspect he was just trying to avoid marrying OW (didn't work). WS's also tend to get it in their heads that anything we offer is bad because they would try to hurt us if things were reversed. It's part of their way of justifying their actions. I made the mistake of letting my XWH and the lawyers drag it out. It took me setting a court date before the paperwork was signed. Even then he still tried to get out of an agreement that he signed in court ordered binding mediation.

Just remember that life does get better. During that two year nightmare, I never could have imagined how good my life would be today.

They should take cruel wives who kill innocent animals and do the same to them.

Put your wife in a big cage with about 15 other wives and dont give them any food or water for days. Let them beg and get close to death.

Then see how she feels!

I hate her for you.

How sucky!
What goes around - comes around.. or in today's generation's words: "Karma is a b!tch"..
just keep remembering that.
Your STBXW won't soon forget it - and u said her OWM has already dumped her. O well! Sucks to be her doesn't it? Looks like payback is already beginning to work against her.. and she better hang on for the ride, coz it's gonna be a loooooooooong one for her!
You hang in there, dude. It DOES get better - trust me it does get better. Just that it takes soooooo long for it to.
Harold

I did get my cockatoo the day I was thrown out and she is doing fine now.

She had alot of detatchment anxiety for a few months, but is fine now. STBX never liked Roxy in the first place, but she sure loved my wife.


My poor little finches. They were innocent in all of this.

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http://gouldiansforsale.com/prices.htm

Oh man. I saw a couple of these only ONCE in a pet shop. The most beautiful birds.....

I am sorry. That you ever met a human being, a woman, and a wife, who is so darn cruel!

There are few people I know in this world as cruel as your wife!


I hope you never meet a creep as mean as her again in your lifetime.