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Im confused and dont understand......please help answer??
#1932513 08/27/07 03:54 PM
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Im divorced and remarried (for almost 5yrs).......if god really intended for me to remain married to my EX (his true plan)......then why does it feel so right being remarried to my wife and it felt so wrong being married to my EX? Why am I so much happier, why couldnt my EX and I get along and raise our family as a unit. Why does everything seem to just flow and fall into place with my wife now? Its almost like she was the ONE.....the one I was meant to be with all along.

It may be a question I will have to ask god personally one day, but I really just dont understand.

Im not reminiscing over anything really, my buddy is divorced and has been remarried for about 10yrs and he says the same thing. Like he was meant to be with his current wife.

God bless, and have a great day everyone!!
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I am still on my 1st m but i would think that maybe the second go round you learn what not to do your 1st m teaches you valubale lessons of the things you need and don't need so you are drawn to those things and you retreaat from the thing that you dislike just my 2 cents on this

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Me= 32
W = 28
Married 8 yrs together 1 1/2 prior
2 1/2 yr old daughter
Things are better but not fixed
Re: Im confused and dont understand......please help answer??
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I am still on my 1st m but i would think that maybe the second go round you learn what not to do your 1st m teaches you valubale lessons of the things you need and don't need so you are drawn to those things and you retreaat from the thing that you dislike just my 2 cents on this

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Thanks......I appreciate your opinion, and I do think you are on the right track.

But, overall my marriage seems better and more stable......not just from my end. My wife appreciates me and the things I offer to her more. I wish I could explain it better. Its almost like I dont remember my 9yr. prior marriage......I didnt feel married then, like I do now.

Thanks again for your input.
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Also...........I was questioning why a marriage that was SUPPOSED to be in gods plan, really wasnt what I considered a marriage at all. I feel like my wife now is more of a companion.....even though she wasnt my first choice by god. I dont know....Im just confused about the whole thing.
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"Im divorced and remarried (for almost 5yrs).......if god really intended for me to remain married to my EX (his true plan)......then why does it feel so right being remarried to my wife and it felt so wrong being married to my EX? Why am I so much happier, why couldnt my EX and I get along and raise our family as a unit. Why does everything seem to just flow and fall into place with my wife now? Its almost like she was the ONE.....the one I was meant to be with all along."



You have to understand that God gives us all a "free will", our WS chose to do what they did on their own "free will", God didn't make them do it. I believe that God does have a back up plan for us.
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We must really suck at free will. Thank goodness he has a backup plan.

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