WH signed it w/ almost no problems. I was very calm the whole time and didn't say anything I regret.

It was like looking at a stranger, though. I truly felt just....detached from him. I almost feel bad posting here because I feel like maybe I should want him back, even a little bit. And I don't. Even my SIL said that afterwards I just looked relieved, and asked why I hadn't just filed for divorce. The only reason I didn't was because I've been a stay-at-home for 13 years, and I haven't been able to find a job yet.

It's all such a big change. And I've read here that most people regret filing for divorce too quickly. But I guess my marriage really is over. I really don't know how my WH feels, but that quit mattering to me a month and half ago.

I don't want to do anything rash, so what's a good time line before filing for divorce? I've known about the last affair since Dec.'06, one false recovery, and he's serial cheater. I guess I'm at a point where I just want it to be okay to move on. I'm a christian and knowing that God hates divorce I struggle w/ the fact that I do want a divorce and that if WH doesn't file, I will. Does that make sense?

You are making complete sense...Yes, God doesn't like D but he also doesn't want you, his child, to be treated so poorly...

I'm so sorry that you are here and having to deal with this...

I struggled with the same issue...I'm sorry that I don't have any advise or suggestions for the timeline...just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!

(((SL77))))