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Here I find myself in this forum, after many months on GQII.

My sig line has my timeline. Until recently I'd been trying to work toward reconciliation with XH by working Plan A with a 180, with no success. We're friends at least - I'd hoped for more, but he chose to say no. I kept working the Plan, in the hopes he'd reconsider, but after several months of the same, it appears that our relationship stops at friendship and nothing more. I'm happy about that much at least.

Then suddenly, out of the blue, a gentleman asked me out to dinner last week! We'd met in person once before, and had corresponded by email a few times. We both share a common hobby, Geocaching. After some inner debate as to whether to accept this invitation or not, and with the encouragement of my friends and some of the good folks here at MB, I decided to accept. We had a wonderful time, and since then, have spent some time together, getting to know each other better.

He's a gentleman in every respect - respect being the operative word. It's been a long time since I felt that someone was actually interested in what I had to say, how I feel, and I find him fascinating too.

We've spent a lot of time talking and getting to know each other. We're taking things slowly, and one day at a time. I have felt comfortable telling him about the 'place' that I am in, and while he's never been married, no kids, he has had a couple of long-term relationships that ended badly. He's been on his own for just over a year now.

We're both a little cautious, guarded, and we're both fine with taking things slowly and not putting pressure on things.

After our nice dinner last week, we've been on a picnic by the lake, and we went out Geocaching together. I'd say that RC is one of his important EN - and I've discovered that for me it has more importance than I might have thought.

It seems that I'm starting on a new journey, in a totally different direction. I never saw it coming - but now that I'm here, I'm enjoying the ride.

Any advice? There aren't any problems or red flags... I just want to continue working on myself, so that I can be the best dating partner I can be, and learn to listen to myself if I do spot a red flag - I've been known to ignore them in the past...

I have to say, it's really nice to receive a good morning email, or a phone call, or to have a door opened for me... I could get used to all that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Life had been pretty good recently - now that I can look forward to a little accompanied recreation, it just got a bit better!

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F/40, DD15 DS13 M 1989 DDay his EA May 1998. S Aug 2004. D Dec 05. I filed. 4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R. 6/23/07 XH said no to R. 8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B". 1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day. Ask me about Geocaching!
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JinGA,

Please email me. Thanks!

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Exercise patience and caution while having fun. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

MUch better than hanging on for your ex. Windows open all the time.


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Ace - you've got mail <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

GG - you're right about patience and caution - after some train wreck mistakes in the past - I'm all about that now - and I'm fine with it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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F/40, DD15 DS13 M 1989 DDay his EA May 1998. S Aug 2004. D Dec 05. I filed. 4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R. 6/23/07 XH said no to R. 8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B". 1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day. Ask me about Geocaching!
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Hey Jin. Any updates? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Hey Seabird <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Was just thinking that I haven't checked in on you in a while... I'll scoot over to your thread in a minute.

I've posted on GQII too at BD's request - more traffic there.

Things are going *very* well. We've been out geocaching a few times, made dinner together a couple of times... we are really hitting it off - but we're taking things one day at a time. So far I'd say we're a good match - very similar personalities, similar likes and dislikes, but different enough to always have something to talk about.

Who'd have thunk? I wasn't "looking" for anyone - but there he was - and we're just enjoying spending time together and getting to know each other.

Life was good before - it's getting a bit better now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Off to check on your progress...

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F/40, DD15 DS13 M 1989 DDay his EA May 1998. S Aug 2004. D Dec 05. I filed. 4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R. 6/23/07 XH said no to R. 8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B". 1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day. Ask me about Geocaching!
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Glad to hear it Jin. Just out of curiosity, has XH figured out what's going on yet? Any reaction from him?

Should I just look for your thread in GQII? Have you already covered all of this in there?

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I covered it but no worries... yep XH has met B, and they hit it off quite nicely. XH wishes me well and even told me that he had a good first impression of B (better than his first impression of the last man I was involved with - LOL my own first impression of B was better than that of the man I was last involved with! I'm learning!)

No obvious signs of jealousy, no meddling - that's a good thing too. I think I'm finally able to just let it go and truly move on, in a healthy way.

In my short time with B I've found out that there really can be more out there - better even! Never thought I'd hear myself say that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Again - taking things slowly - one day at a time, but I'm really just enjoying each day as it comes.

JinGA


F/40, DD15 DS13 M 1989 DDay his EA May 1998. S Aug 2004. D Dec 05. I filed. 4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R. 6/23/07 XH said no to R. 8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B". 1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day. Ask me about Geocaching!

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