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I have been in plan B 2 months. H wrote me a letter today. He said that he tought we were getting along well for a long time. Then I stopped him from coming over. He said its not fair. He said his mother tells him how we are. (I don't know if the A is still going on).
What should I do? Should I write him back telling him that he told me he has no plan of coming home, so I moved on... or should I not do anything and see if he writes again....
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joCee, have you ever sent him a PROPER Plan B letter or did you just shut him out? There is a huge difference between Plan B and just giving someone the cold shoulder. Did you really send him a proper Plan B letter?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes I did I told him that as long as his affair was still going on there would be no contact with me. I asked him if he wanted to try to rebuild the marriage. He was not interested so I said goodby. Leave my life alone.
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Then I stopped him from coming over. He said its not fair. He said his mother tells him how we are. (I don't know if the A is still going on). Excuse me, but what in the heck does his his mother have to do with this? Is this not your marriage? I've never seen such a ludicrouse(sp) statement as this in a llong time. This baffles my mind? Jerry
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Under normal Plan B methods, there should be a trusted friend or relative who can handle communication. I suggest you use that person to explain to WH that you said what you meant and meant what you said. Don't call or contact me so long as the affair is ongoing.
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JoeCee,
What kind of Plan B are you in that you are reading letters from your husband???????????????????????????
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Y'all, I don't think she is in Plan B. I think she told her H he couldn't come over anymore.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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