I will try to make this as short as I can. My husband had an affair in 2000. We worked everything out and things are going good with us. But now I just got a new job and my manager who is married with 3 kids is having an affair with a married man. My manager's husband is a soldier and of course he is gone now. Well she comes in everyday telling me how happy she is with her boyfriend and how great life is with him. Everytime she starts talking about this I want to just vomit or scream at her. She was upset this week because her children didn't want to go on a trip with her and her boyfriend. I can't even believe she told them but she said she keeps no secrets from her kids. They see she is happy and that is all that matters. I don't know what kind of relationship the father has with his kids. How would you handle this situation? Oh by the way she is not a very nice person to have as a boss either so it isn't like I can have a normal conversation with her I am sure once I tell her what I think of her and her relationship she will be even meaner.
any help thanks

Let her upper management know that this boss is putting undue stress on her employees by insisting you all listen to stories of her infidelity and expose the OM. Let them know that she has even tried to coerce her children to go along with this charade and is now trying to force her staff as well. Let them know this is making it difficult for the department.

L.

mostlyhurt, I would try and find a way to notify her husband. I would also find another job. You are working for someone with whom you should not trust your livelihood. She is not a fit manager because she has no moral foundation.

Do you have an HR department? Where I work, something like that could be taken to HR, as opposed to her manager, then HR handles it. That may help (may, not a guarantee) minimize her reaction toward her staff. I agree with ML that it would also be wise to find another job if possible.

good advice....give us an update.